Stopping breastfeeding

How are people stopping breastfeeding their 12 + months old? Having her sign milk and cry is breaking my heart but I’m so ready to stop 😢😅 I offer food, snacks, alternative milk but she still cries for it.

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I think just keep going with offering her those and eventually she will get used to the idea. We did that and then when I was down to a bedtime feed and night feed I cut down the time slowly over a couple of weeks (literally timed it) and eventually she wasn't really taking much milk and she became less interested. The first bedtime without feeding her to sleep was nerve wracking but she took to it better than I imagined. They adapt really well to these things but you just have to stick with it (I know it's hard :( )

That’s good to know that it’s worked for you. I’ve just had an entire evening of screaming and two hours in the night screaming last night. Guess just got to carry on like you say and hopefully she starts to get it

Are you dropping one feed at a time? Remember you need to do it slowly foe both her and you (or your boobs will not be happy 😅). Does she feed roughly similar times every day or is it super varied? X

Yeah I have been, I’m now back at work so want to feed her first thing and at bed time but she is screaming to feed at around 6 when she should be eating dinner

Nursery days it’s pretty set but the weekend is super varied

Is there a way you can make her feel connected but not feed her? Our feeds have also been replaced by alot of cuddles. The night wakes have been more challenging, but my husband has helped with the settles. Don't get be wrong it was easier than I imagined but we've still had times where she's upset and I wish I could still feed her but you find other ways to settle them. Good luck! X

Since I've stopped she is regularly sleeping through the night, which is a nice surprise as before she only did that like twice her whole life! I hope you get more sleep too after this tough time x

She is very cuddly so she does get plenty of cuddles. Yeah the night is the issue as well as she will just scream bloody murder. In the day if she wants feeding though she doesn’t want cuddles and will push away. The nights have got too much now I’m back to work, and to be honest they’ve got worse. I did not realise how hard it would be to stop 😅

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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