having your body back

I know there are still expecting moms on here but this is for everyone… i just wanted to put this out here because i feel like other people dont really understand-

A big part of postpartum that i feel like is not talked about enough is having your body back after birth.
Getting used to the way of life without a baby in your belly. Being able to move and do things you couldnt have for the past 9months.
Adjusting our lives for the past 9 months solely for your baby and now all of the sudden, you dont have to anymore.
It hits a little different and its a weird concept to get used to again.
Whether its eating certain foods, drinks certain drinks, laying on your stomach, cracking your back, touching your toes/bending over, leaning against a counter, reaching for something etc.
It feels like a new life and it can be disorienting. Anyone who hasnt been pregnant seems to not completely understand this feeling so im writing this in hopes it helps new moms or seasoned moms to not feel alone with all the different emotions after birth (this being one of them)

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ik breastfeeding is still strict on the body but im mainly talking about the belly bump

💕💕love this , had my daughter 4 days ago and it feels like something is missing out of me ! At the same time I’m glad to be able to touch my toes again lol

I'm happy to see my body going anywhere near back to normal again. Most surprising so far was how much my feet had actually swelled. So weird to see them normal size again. Unfortunately with a c section I don't see a lot going back to normal anytime soon but im ok with that. The best thing is being able to pop my back again and I can't wait to be healed enough to move around normally again. I still need to remember to slow down tho because I just had surgery and a baby 10 days ago and I'm not back to normal yet.

Laying on stomach is huge!!

This is my favorite part about postpartum aside from having baby in my arms. The freeing feeling of being able to squeeze into smaller spaces, not knocking my 3 and 4 year olds over, being able to hug my husband without feeling like I have a huge pool floaty around me, etc. I can't wait to get this one out and be free again 😂

I was able do things like I used to pre-pregnancy pretty easily, but i find that I rest my hand on my belly like I did when baby was in there.. sometimes I miss it but when I do I just hold her and tell myself she's in my arms now

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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