Help with sleep

I need some help. My LO is 22 months old and we are currently trying for our next baby but I’ve got a few concerns about his sleep which will be hard when I’m pregnant and when the baby is born.
1. We have to stand up and rock him to sleep and my partner and I are struggling because he is quite heavy now and it kills our back and arms.
2. For some reason, for the last 2 months, he won’t go to sleep until late (between 10-11pm) and we don’t know why. We can’t stop his nap because he will just end up falling asleep late in the day as he still needs his one nap. He naps between 1-3 hours at around 10.30-11am but even if he was to just nap for 1 hour, he still will go to sleep late.
3. He wakes up during the night. He can wake up between 1-4 times. There will be a rare occasion where he will sleep through the night.
5. Sometimes, when he wakes up during the night, he fully wakes up so it takes us between 2-3 hours to get him back to sleep and it’s hard when we both have work the next day (I have to wake up at 5.15-5.30am for work).
6. Because his sleep is all over the place, he never wakes up at the same time every morning so we wouldn’t be able to get him to nap earlier in the day.

We have tried the Ferber method but that didn’t work because it got to the point where I felt like we were doing the cry out method and I do not want to put my son through that. It’s upsetting.

Is there anything we can do to try and get him to fall asleep by himself and stay asleep?

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What time does he usually wake up for the day? And do you know his wake windows?
Is there a way to lay next to him and pat him to sleep instead of rocking?

My daughter does the same sometimes she wakes up screaming and crying for an hour. I don’t have set bed times but she does go to bed before 12 am and wakes up before 9am napes for 2 hours but everyday is different. We use a sound machine the round one it’s gray on Amazon I have it on the static sound it’s like an airplane sound then we use a fan that has white noise and vibrations. We never sleep without the machine ever.

I have read that making sure they are up at the same time everyday is important for a good routine. I struggle with this myself bc my girl is really difficult to put to sleep too. I would try to move wake up time earlier for a few days and see if that makes a difference

he wakes up at different times. On Saturday he woke up at 8.30, yesterday he woke up at 5.45 and this morning at 7. He goes for his nap for about 10-11am. He has always gone for his nap at that time and when we used to get him to sleep at 7.30-8 he would go to straight to sleep but now he won’t and is wide awake. He wants us to stand up when getting him to sleep. If we done that, he wouldn’t stop moving and he would cry

we use a waterfall sound and have the fan on but when it gets cold we won’t be able to use the fan which has helped him sleep better through the night

I wish I could do that but on Saturday he was up at 8.30, yesterday at 5.45 and this morning at 7

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Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

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Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
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