Toddler spitting in my face
I feel disgusted. Did you experience this approaching year 4 and after?
Toddlers can really trigger alot of emotions.
I don’t hit him, but what is a natural consequence since you can’t spit or hit back which in the real world is what’s going to happen if he did this to anyone else. I try to explain how we treat others how we want to be treated and constantly saying how unacceptable it is. I usually get down to his level to talk but he spits then also or move his eyeballs around, turn his head etc. advice?
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My son will be 5 in April and he just recently took a sip of water of spit it in his grandfathers face as he was leaning over his car seat to say goodbye the other day. Laughed about it too. His grandfather is a big guy with a loud voice. I wasn’t there that day but for a little bit he stopped. He goes in and out of it. Mostly out and mostly when he’s messing with his little brother. He did it A LOT when he was younger. Maybe around 2-3. I would love to say it goes away completely but it just fades, slowly.
😭 oh my gosh why????
He spits as if someone is teasing someone without the teasing if that makes sense. Disgusting
He’s testing boundaries. All kids do it. It just gets weirder as they get older
😫True but how do you handle it? Mine does it for the heck of it and when he is mad. If he is mad, I tell him how he can handle it instead, but honestly I tell him he has to move away from me with that or I walk away (when he randomly does it) because I can’t just sit there and allow him to stick his tongue out and spit in my face.
Well at first I would do what you’re doing now, then as he got older I would say talk about how he would like it if someone spit in his face. Then it became me identifying my feelings when he did it and saying “you do this when you’re feeling angry and mommy is feeling that way now and mommy needs to take a break”. I don’t know if you’ve talked to him about “taking breaks” or not. My son has HUGE emotions he hits, kicks, spits, screams. We have to take breaks and deep breaths and I’ve taken a lot of the brunt of the abuse. It’s hard. It’s helped my son a lot for me to identify my feelings that mirror his or just sit with him while he experiences them and then I just say “do you feel better? Are we ready to try again?” Even if it is after you come back from leaving the room. I never left the room for longer than a minute or two to get myself regulated. Kids are triggering and it’s hard if we were never taught how to regulate ourselves (which I wasn’t because I’m an older mom).
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