Miscarriage

I just found out I miscarried and I don't know what to do.

I only found out on Friday I was pregnant and today I was told that my little Chia seed didn't make it 😭😭💔
How am I supposed to be there for my husband but also just wanna cry all the time.

Any advice would be appreciated 🙏

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Firstly, I'm so so sorry for your loss. Miscarriage is incredibly difficult because you're not only giving the loss of your baby, but also the life you had planned with them and all of your wishes and drea.s.

I personally found it difficult too, but I cried when I needed to and encouraged him to do the same. I would just be as honest with him as possible, but also openly recognise his feelings about the loss too.

Sending lots of love, please feel free to message if you need to. X

thank you so much ❤️

I really don't have any advice that will make it easier ❤️ from my experience try to remember that you and your husband may grieve in different ways and it might feel like there's distance between you, that's how it was for me anyway. Cry as much as you want to, you shouldn't have to suppress your grief. Take it easy on yourself as you go through this difficult time, give yourself lots of care. It was hard for me to do anything so I had to treat myself as if I was my friend, what would you do for a friend going through this? Food, rest and distraction will help a little. I slept as much as I could at first to get away from the reality of what was happening. Time will make it easier I'm so sorry for your loss ❤️

Thank you so much! ❤️

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