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How do I get through the funeral?

This coming Monday it's my baby girl's funeral. I had pinned ALL my hopes on having her. It feels like I've lost everything. I feel disconsolate, scared and incredibly lonely. What do you hold onto at a time like this?

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I’m so sorry for your loss. I lost my baby girl too, and I had to attend her funeral, it was an awfully emotional day, but it gave me closure, knowing she was rested in peace. As a mother it’s the worse feeling having to leave your baby and I hated her being in the mortuary and then in the funeral home , so it was relief in a way.

All I can say is; cry as much as you can and let it all out. The grief does get easier , but it never leaves you. Losing a baby is the worse pain in the world.
I’m so sorry 😔 xxx

I’m so sorry for your loss mumma

It’s 5 years next week since losing my son and it’s the hardest day ever. I asked to be able to go and hold him before the funeral and then again after the service I went and held him until the car arrived to take him away for his cremation. I spent as much time as possible which him while I had the chance.
We were surrounded by all of our family and friends but I still felt so disconnected from the world and didn’t want to engage with anyone that day.
After the funeral was over I went and sat at the beach and just cried.
The next day after a good sleep I finally felt like I had some kind of peace and closure and could start grieving properly.
Everyone is so different in their way of grieving and their needs. Just do what is right for you. Speak up and ask for help if needed and done be afraid to ask for some space and privacy if you need that too.
You got this mumma.
Sending lots of love to you and your baby girl x

this sounds like me 100%

thank you. I hope I get some peace and closure, too.

this does matter. I must remember that. Thank you

I’m so sorry for your loss, I completely understand how you’re feeling, my 13 month olds funeral was on Friday and it was the worst day ever. The way I’m trying to hold on and keep it together is by constantly talking about him and looking through photos and going to his favourite places and talking to him still as if he’s still here. X

@ Mandi. Thank you. Scary is the right word, but as you say, I'll remind myself that this is okay and normal.

so sorry to hear this Olivia. Your words are incredibly moving. I can see your baby was very loved and it's wonderful how you're keeping his memory alive.

Thank you, Courtney. Do you mean a funeral garden or something else?

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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