Tantrums

Within the past week or so, the “ terrible 2’s” has started with our son. I mean, ear piercing, bloody murder screaming when he doesn’t get something, throwing food and toys when he’s frustrated, shaking his head no to EVERYTHING. He goes to daycare full time, and she said he pushed on of the other boys today. What might be the best approach to handling this behavior, especially when most of it happens when we’re not around to correct it ourselves. I feel like I have to rely on his daycare teacher to do most of the corrections. Mom guilt starting to rear its ugly head that we have to work and can’t be around him 24/7

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I never thought I could be humbled by someone that still poops their pants 🤦🏻‍♀️

I have not advise just support. My four year old is still like this. The guilt is so bad

Honestly, toddler behaviour is usually linked to really basic needs.
Fatigue, thirst, hunger. Could be tired and missing you guys, being in care 5 days and acting out at home where they feel safe.
It was the same with me, I had to work, my toddler was in care, hitting a lot. Angry when at home.
Set boundaries, consistent and firm, but not mean. When you do have time together, give them ur full attention, do the routine things with them etc so they’re not just watching tv or playing alone (hard I know when you’ve been working all day and need to get dinner/housework done)
In relation to boundaries - validate but don’t allow/support the behaviour. And reinforce the positives. I mean these sorts of things -
(Child throws toy at me) are you ok? You seem angry. Please don’t throw toys, they will have to be packed away so they don’t break if you throw them again.
(Child screams and throws toy again)
Ok I’m packing the toys away so they don’t get broken (calmly pack them away)

Child will get upset - and I will then say:
- I can see you’re really upset. When you’re ready I’m here and can give you a cuddle.

So basically, let them be angry/sad/etc, but don’t give in or react to the negative behaviour. Aim for natural consequences.
I would also talk to the daycare to make sure she’s getting enough sleep, water, etc. when my boy is even slightly hungry (low blood sugar) he is honestly psycho. Once he’s eaten he’s a different child!

Sorry just realised it’s your son not daughter and I said she.
My boy’s behaviour was also way worse at daycare! I think they were too harsh on him and he didn’t like the educators. He’s way better at a different centre now too

thank you for all of that! I appreciate any advice. On the whole, he’s a really happy kid. His tantrums are extremely quick and I can usually redirect him somewhat easily. But I will definitely try out some of your suggestions!

I just got into the 3s a few weeks ago and I feel like it all just got 10000x worse 🥲🥲
Terrible twos had nothing on my daughters “threenager stage “ she’s so darn mean now and the tantrums are even worse !

This sounds so similar to my boy. Good luck x

oh no!🫠🫠

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Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

AITA

In the uk there is an outbreak of meningitis, in a specific area mainly. My BD has family from that area and decided to go and meet up with them, I said if he does then he cannot have contact with the kids for 7-10 days after incase he picks anything up. Am I being over dramatic? I reallyyy don’t want my young kids getting anything serious

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time

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Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

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