Am I crazy

How would you react if your mom just constantly poked and nagged at you. At your parenting and at your kids for everything. Even things you can’t control. How would you react if she spanked and yelled for longer than she needed to about your kid to your kid. If she made comments about how “it’s like they’ve never left the house” “they are spoiled” “they are bad and destroy everything”

Keep in mind I do raise my voice, I spank, I do time outs, I count down, I take away privileges. They are still toddlers. They are at the age that they are pushing boundaries, learning to use their voice and the ability to say no. I try to parent better than my mom. Growing up it was constant yelling, berating for 10 mins and hitting. I have been spanked with belts, wooden spoons she even once threw a vch tape at us and hit us with hangers. So it’s safe to say we have different parenting styles. I tried to tell her to stop yelling at us and to lower her voice. I tried to tell her to discuss this in private not around the kids and she just continued to argue and yell. My kids ran behind me and in a corner. She said they were being dramatic. I don’t know if I should let it blow over or text her tomorrow and apologize for the screaming match but that again I don’t appreciate or approve her trying to parent my kids and put them down or me down especially in front of them. I don’t even allow it to happen between me and their dad. Or do I just let it blow over untill we start to talk again. Just do you know we also have to live together bc I’m newly single mom and unfortunately am not making enough in the town I live in.

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You’re definitely not alone in this. I’m going through something similar with my mom too. I don’t spank my daughter, even when my mom tells me I should & it frustrates my mom. My mom is Hispanic & I grew up with yelling, spanking & all the things that came with her parenting style. I’ve made the choice to raise my daughter differently, and it’s really hard when she doesn’t agree with my approach. She still yells at me, even in front of my daughter, and I try to stay calm and keep my voice low because I want to set a better example for her. It often feels like my mom is the one acting immature in these moments, and my daughter has even pointed out how mean grandma can be.

I completely understand how exhausting it is to try and break those cycles while living under the same roof. It’s hard to know when to speak up and when to let things blow over. Whatever you decide, just remember you’re doing your best, and your kids will see the difference in how you’re trying to parent them.

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My husband has been abroad for work (1 day and exploring for 1 day) for 2 and a half days which means I’ve had both kids (1 year and 4 year old) for 2 and a half days plus cooking, cleaning, taking them to clubs, bedtimes!
He came home late afternoon and said I’m so tired, I just need to chill. I said can you wash up whilst I sort kids dinner out, he said he’ll do it later which means he won’t do it and I’ll end up doing it so I said no do it now please otherwise I’ll end up doing it and he said well you have been home and I’ve been away so you’ve just been relaxing.
Don’t know what planet he is on but having the kids alone for 2.5 days is not relaxing. I was stressed!

When he was away, I did miss him and wanted him to come back but now he’s back, I want him to go away again😂
Is that bad?

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Really bothered by this

A friend posted this and it really bothers me because that is exactly how she parents her kid, and it's rather unfortunate because when our kids hang out together, her kid has a meltdown at least 5x within an hour. We have know them for years and it's only gotten worse. My kids will concede to hers, because they don't want to see their friend crying, but it sucks because they give up so much of their toys and enjoyment to keep the peace. We aren't hanging out as much anymore but it's rather sad to think she doesn't intervene more in her child tantrums and just let's it slide

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

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Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

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Pouches

I’m not one of those mums who stand in the kitchen making every meal from scratch and batches of healthy snacks as I simply do not have time with other children and soon back to a full time job, but I do try give my weaning baby part of what we eat at meal times and will throw something healthy together if what we eat isn’t suitable. However, I do have some pouches in for convenience or a last resort. I’ve only used these a few times in the space of two months but she absolutely LOVES them. She will scream for more, get excited when she sees the pouch and will literally eat the whole thing. She’s underweight so this is massive for me seeing her eat so well, but the guilt is getting to me a bit! Anybody else like a little pouch every now and then and can make me feel a little better about giving her them😅

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Friends with shitty husbands

Does anyone have a close friend with a shittv husband?

My best friend of 14years married her high school sweetheart (minus the sweetheart.) He was always a POS growing up, had an on and off relationship and eventually from what I was told, they sorted their shit out and got married. I moved countries and her and I drifted apart for a while so I didn't know too much about what their relationship was like but assumed all was well since her social media alluded to that.

We both had babies within a year of each other, she had hers first and when she gave birth I found out I was pregnant. I had a rough pregnancy and we weren't in contact much but after my LO was born we spoke a lot. This is when I found out that she was struggling with PPD etc. She opened up about how useless her husband is, I would go as far as to say abusive. She's a SAHM who basically does absolutely evervthing & is being financially abused She's completelv touched out and is about to have a second child in a week.

I absolutelv cannot stand her husband. I hate how he treats her. I hate to hear about him. She posted on social media all the time about how lucky she is to have him as a husband and father to her babies yet cries to me on the phone in private about what really goes on.
I'm at a point now where I want to tell her that I don't want to hear about it anymore. I feel guilty that she's going through this but she's also allowing it to continue in a sense. I'm so emotionally exhausted with her problems and just want to shake her.

How do you/would you navigate this situation?

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