Break up

If the dad is not a danger to her just let him get on. She'll learn to accept him as her safe space soon enough and he'll grow and learn how to do things right. Baby clothes are very fiddly and my partner isn't keen on it either. If you keep stopping him from being alone with his child because he does it "wrong" they'll never have a good relationship. My partner and I handle the kids differently a lot of the time. And that's ok! There is no perfect way to raise children. We all make mistakes.

How are you feeling about the relationship ending? That can’t be easy either. When does your maternity end/how old will she be?
I had the same fears about my LO not settling with anyone else when I go back to work etc. However as she is getting older I have realised she will be just fine.
Stay strong and you can always drop me a message if you want to talk x

We literally just ended things today with absolutely no way back as the trust is gone. I don't really have many friends so posted on here just to let it out really, I'm absolutely gutted it's ended but there's 0 chance of getting back with him, my maternity ends in March so she'll be 9 months. I hope by then she does have her own bond with him so I don't have to worry as much, but in all honestly it's not just that she doesn't like him it's lack of effort on his part. When she's overtired for example, rather than actually trying to get her to sleep he'll just sit with her on his knee letting her cry.. he's really impatient with her and just hands her back to me when she gets difficult- this is what I worry about, not that he does it "wrong" but because he does almost nothing to help her

Honestly, just let him get on with it. My baby went through a phase of screaming for her dad, however I told him to persevere and now she's fine. He's learnt his own ways of settling her at night, and he is perfectly fine with nappy changes, dressing her, bathtimes and bedtimes! Sometimes, you have to step back and stop micromanaging, as if you weren't around one day then he would have no choice!

Once your maternity period ends if you don’t feel he has spent enough time with your LO to know what to do/how to settle her/ can control his impatience and take care of your child then start with short periods of contact during the day only, they could even be whilst you are there (you get housework done whilst he stays in the living room with her) and then build it up to time away from you, longer time during the day ect and then finally overnight.
Although he may not like it the whole point is keeping your baby safe and ensuring they will be cared for properly when away from you. Just because he has the title of father doesn’t mean he can care for them properly.

Hope your okay ❤️ have you rung your family yet to ask for help?