Help! I'm not sleeping and can't keep doing this.

I'm sorry I don't have any advice personally but if you have Facebook maybe try joining the group "The Beyond Sleep Training project"

It's run by a group of volunteers all over the world who have a lot of experience in cosleeping etc 💕 worth joining and asking id say

Hey I don’t have much advice but just to say that I’m in the same boat. I cosleep with my LO pretty much all night at the moment. Previously she would settle for a couple of hours in her next to me before I would bring her into bed but now we’re getting maybe an hour and a half tops before I need to bring her to bed but even in bed she isn’t always settled. I’m currently getting 20/30 minute stints of sleep, so totally get how you’re feeling it’s just soul destroying. I also feel like a lot of people assume once your baby is this age the really bad nights are starting to become a thing of the past so they stop checking in as much or offering support. I’m definitely finding this stage much harder than newborn. Since my LO was three months sleep has been non existent 🫠

I didn’t realise how badly broken sleep/ deprivation affects every aspect of your life. I can feel my mood getting very low at times and my tolerance for things that normally wouldn’t bother me is now really low..

Just wanted to leave a comment to say I understand your situation and your not alone ❤️

My little boy went through this a few weeks ago and the best advice I had was that it’s just a phase and to lean on people around you to help.
Is there any way you can express and your partner can feed him to give you a night off? (worked wonders for me, felt like a new woman in the morning)
When he naps in the day take it as an opportunity to nap yourself or if you have any family to help, have them take him for a few hours so you can rest.
It won’t last forever and will get better ❤️

I’m in exactly this position too. I never wanted to Cosleep but it’s the only way to survive as we have a toddler too and otherwise I’d be so so exhausted (instead of just so exhausted 😂) I just came to say the whole thing that people say about them sleeping better with fuller tummies due to starting solids/formula is a myth. Our 1st didn’t start sleeping solidly until 15months, one day it’ll happen when they’re ready. We tried all the things with our 1st, some babies are good sleepers, some are not, those with perfect sleepers are just lucky, it’s not down to what they’re doing differently. I’m more relaxed and accepting of it this time, although exhausted I accept it’ll happen when she’s ready. But the current situ of feeding alllllll night is draining me!!! I’m here with you! ❤️

https://www.instagram.com/olivia_lactation_consultant?igsh=MXN0MDNrOTBibXF3Ng==

https://www.instagram.com/lyndsey_hookway?igsh=Z3VrNmRvYjF5Zmc2

I’ve found these pages helpful at times (mainly reassuring in the fact it’ll happen when it happens, you’re not doing anything wrong, all totally developmentally normal)

Oh my goodness, you are not alone in this! This is baby 4 and I have never co slept before until my daughter who is now 5 1/2 months, she refused the next to me from the get go so I had no other option than to allow her to sleep with me otherwise I would literally be sleep deprived and so low in mood which isn’t an option as I have other children to show up for in the daytime. I can’t really help with the long stints of sleep however two weeks ago I came to a point where I could no longer cope with her being in bed with me 24/7 yet I knew she still needed to be next to me so I’ve started laying her in her next to me crib and feeding her from the breast over the crib until she falls to sleep ( it’s effort ) but it’s really really helped with her getting used to being in her own space and it’s given me the little bit of space I need. Sadly she still gets up very regularly but that little bit of progress has shown me that there is light at the end of the tunnel.
Xxx