Would you date someone who never makes out with you?

I mean french kissing (with tongue)
I never thought that it was possible to not like kissing but my partner says he doesn’t and I’m devastated. I love it, it’s part of foreplay to me and I hate that he only gives me little peck kisses. I can’t imagine that he went all his life dating women who were okay with not kissing so I want to know if this is a thing/if others would be okay with never making out with their partner.

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no. He doesn’t kiss me at all during sex

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Personally I wouldn’t be bothered by it. I love a smooch but I’m not about snogging, never been into tongues and all that.

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I only actually like pecks. I make out because that's what others like, and it doesn't bother me enough to say no to it. So this wouldn't bother me personally. I also prefer body kisses as a form of foreplay

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As I've gotten older/ been with my husband so long we stopped kissing like that. We've only done peck ones i haven't washed too kids like that tho.

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I didn’t even know there were people who didn’t like kissing! Whoa. Fascinating news to me.

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I guess it’s not because we’ve been together for 4 years and have a child BUT every now and then I get frustrated and want to be kissed and when I mention it he plays stupid like I haven’t told him a billion times before that I like to make out and it just ruins the mood. In hindsight maybe it should’ve been a deal breaker for me but it’s a little late for that.

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We are 10years into our relationship (7 married) and french kissing has died out to almost extinct since having our LO.
The other day we 'snogged' and it felt pretty awkward - I was nervous laughing🤣
What is that even about? It was nothing like that at the start all those years ago and I hope we can get to a point where it's a regular, non-awkward occurrence again.

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I couldn’t do it personally. Would feel rather strange

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It wouldn’t bother me personally but my husband also always kisses me passionately. We really only French kiss when we’re having sex and even then it’s not a lot

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I don't really like kiss with tongue. It can be sensual and amazing with just no tongue. My partner likes it but I don't so we don't do it usually and he is totally fine with it.

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19yrs married and we still smooch 😂🤣😂🤣 in the shower. Before sex. Before bed. Doesn’t always lead to sex, most times it does. I just like sitting on him, putting my legs around him and pashing him for a bit. We couldn’t initiate without kissing I dunno that’s weird for me like do you guys go straight for it? Or he does? I mean I KIND of understand being married for so long and not smooching anymore, but during dating stages? Like early on? All we did was kiss. 💁🏻‍♀️😂

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That’d be a dealbreaker for me because I love kissing and it’s personal and intimate. the fact he doesn’t like it is a bit odd

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Ah me and my fiance love a good snog! 🤣. He had an ex who only ever pecked and he (secretly) hated it and felt very dissatisfied. I'm like you, I feel its part of foreplay!

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I am that person who doesn’t like it. I do have sensory issues though and have ADHD, so that’s likely the cause. I love kissing but don’t like kissing with tongues, never have. Or going down on someone, or cum in general, I would like your bodily fluids to stay in your body thanks lol

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I require it, so I usually can’t be with someone who isn’t a kisser

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I mean it's disgusting if you think about it lol 🤣🤣 maybe he's a germophobe. But it wouldn't bother me because people like what they like. You just find a different way to do it or other things. However how long have y'all been together?? I guess it's ultimately upto you and what you're willing to compromise on.

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I would run that is going to get old because I bet he'll still want you to do foreplay things for him sex will start to be like a chore if your needs are not met as well

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My husband and I got married in our later 30s and both said we didn't really like kissing before we met each other. We have such great chemistry and our kissing is 🔥. We both were shocked at how much we liked making out with each other.

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I am one of the strange people who absolutely hate it! The mere thought of it makes me gag, never mind actually doing it. My husband has just had to accept it, I just can't bring myself to do it.

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If I really loved making out then I probably wouldn’t date someone who didn’t like it. I don’t really enjoy making out very much tho so 🤷‍♀️

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I’m one of those people I don’t really like kissing 13 years together married 5 years

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