Toxic

Ugh gosh, I'm so sorry you're going through this. He sounds like a PRICK!! Try keeping to yourself & just focus on baby. If it's too much & happens frequently, make a plan & leave him.. Sending you love 💜

Just leave him with the child so he understands how hard it is.

There is no way I’m going to carry your child for 9 months and then be treated like shit while being sleep deprived like WTF
Go to a hotel for a couple days see what he does without you, and sees how hard it is to take care of a newborn

I agree with .. He said to not take his child anywhere.. Fine, be a lil selfish/petty & leave baby with him (if you know baby won't be harmed in any way) just so he experiences a LITTLE of what we go through as mums.

I’m so sorry you had to experience that:(
If he thinks he can do better then maybe he should be helping you instead of being rude.
He sounds like an ass.

This is scary, he's not only being incredibly unkind, but also trying to hold you and baby hostage? If there's anyone that you can call to help you out of this situation, please call. Im so sorry you're being treated this way, no one deserves this, but based on what you've said, I wouldn't be leaving my baby with someone so toxic

This is a really dangerous sounding relationship I strongly suggest as soon as he is out for the day you literally leave and get someone else to go back for your stuff

doesn’t sound like someone I’d leave my baby with I can imagine him hurting them in a rage if they cried for than a min, and can only imagine the hurtful things being said to the baby even if he was physically bad to it

I agree with I’m sorry you’re go in through this, when you can I would seriously take your baby and leave because that sounds like border line abuse during a time when you are suppose to be loved admired and supported. I wouldn’t be leaving my baby with a man who has a temper like that.

Wow, what is going on?! There are some truly awful men in this world, vile!

This sounds like a dangerous situation
I'm with the others suggesting you get out asap. If you're based in the UK, there're several charities you can go to for help.
I believe Refuge is specifically for women and children.

Red flags.....

Leave

I agree with all the people saying leave. I would NOT leave the baby with him, he’s got anger issues and he might shake the baby in anger, causing irreparable damage. It’s usually dads or stepdads that do this 💔

yeh and there’s usually a women’s aid somewhere nearby

Uff so sorry you're going through this. You should have told him, if you're that smart and I am this stupid you make her stop crying. She's his child too

He needs to grow up

Red flag for sure he should not speak to u like that. Hope u are okay

God, these comments saying leave baby with him are ridiculous!! DO NOT DO THAT!! Go talk to someone at a domestic abuse shelter today. Go stash important documents and other things he won't notice gone at a friend or family members house. Make a plan to get out.

Girl you need to get out of there whatever it takes. In no way is that controlling and emotionally abusive behaviour ok. 🥺

That is very hurtful, immature, unhinged, and scary…

Sounds very toxic. Leave him.

I’m so sorry you were treated like that, nobody deserves that. I think the other advice is very good that you need to take this behaviour as a huge warning, he sounds like he is capable of being extremely cruel. Please make plans to get out, whether it’s a friend family member or a charity who can support you & baby 💕 your safety matters & he sounds dangerous to be around.

He is mentally unstable and lacks emotional intelligence.

I am sorry you are going through this.

Please seek help, and focus on yourself and baby.

All the best

Hey.. his reaction is not normal. He got upset hearing the baby crying, and instead of trying to figure out why, he emotionally attacked you, and told you to make her stop crying instead of helping you.

Thats very toxic behavior. Idk whats your family dynamic, but in my experience, people like that do not consider women equals in houshold rearing, and typically abuse their loved ones.

If he gets mad at normal baby behavior, i can only imagine what else he can get mad at the baby, and at you.
Please consider getting an order of protection because he is using the classic ‘the baby stays with me’, yet i doubt hes proven to be able to take care of a child or even be able to find childcare

i think you need to click on the button in this app for “domestic support”. this is fucked up and you do not deserve this. I’m so sorry.

I guess when you titled this post, was how you felt when you shared… and more than anything else - your baby’s safety and comfort should be prioritized, so I would suggest maybe look into that direction and go from there 🙂, I hope it gets better for you soon

Hope you are ok. Leave and get help

Where are you?