Settling him he’s upset

I’m feeling so low about myself as a mum right now. The last 3/4 nights my little boy has been waking multiple times in the night just uncontrollably crying and there’s nothing I can do that will settle him, he doesn’t even want to cuddle me 😢 just feeling pretty useless! Does anyone have any tips on how to help them when they are in such a state? Thank you 😢

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Not massively helpful, but my daughter has been waking up screaming usually with her eyes still shut; and she will take cuddles, sometimes she goes of quickly other times it can be hours… we’ve put this down to separation anxiety/big feelings and maybe night scares coming in… I also spoke to the nursery about her not going to sleep till 10pm-1am and they said they’re processing so much sometimes they don’t have the words to tell you what was good and bad about their days and what they’ve learnt so they want to show you or distract themselves!

I have no helpful parenting tips, but what I will say is please don’t beat yourself up; I spent 6 weeks when my son was born in hospital with him in May/June and I was away from her and missed her entire summer bar a few hours the days she wasn’t at nursery and the guilt I feel is extreme but we can’t be perfect all the time and parenting isn’t easy and we need to give ourselves a break because this shit is hard and sometimes we need to be

To ourselves, please take a few minutes just to remind yourself, the fact you’re worried makes you a fantastic mum and you should be proud of yourself for trying to power through! Xx

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