Do you think co sleeping with a grandparent is weird?

Buy the bed personally and maybe if she has a spare room he would be sleeping in, decorate him a space or there’s always those travel beds small beds like the preschool cot you can send whenever he goes there.. I’m totally in agreement with you

No. Not at all. As far as I can remember, I’ve always slept with my grandmother. I don’t think I ever slept with my parents growing up. My grandma was more a mother than my mother..

When our 5 year old has a sleep over at my sister house. He sleeps in the same bad as them or with my grandma (she lives with my sister). Or if they’re having a sleep over in the living room, he’d sleep on the couch or the air mattress they have when we come over (or any guests).

When he goes to his grandma (husband side), he sleep on the couch.

If there's not another man sleeping in that bed, then I would be fine with it. They miss their kids when they were little and are reliving it again. It's not a big deal, in my opinion. As long little one is fed, changed, kept clean, and has great time with his grandma, that's all I care about. Some cultures do it more than others so it can be preference.

I slept with my grandma til I was 8 when I slept over. When I was having panic attacks a few years ago, I actually slept in bed with her a few times cause I didn’t want to be alone. My 3 year old now sleeps in bed with my dad when he is over there. I think this is one of those things that is different for everybody obviously but I don’t have an issue with it personally.

My parents have a bedroom for my daughter because she sleeps over atleast once a week but it wouldn’t bother me if she slept in the same bed as my mom and dad. I used to when I was a kid and I used to sleep with my grandmother when I was over for sleepovers too. Tell them your not ok with it and if they can’t by them their own bed then buy one to have there.

I mean she should follow your request but I don't think it's weird. My 3yo will sleep in my mom's bed if he goes camping with them or if she stays at our house. He hasn't requested to sleep with us because of it so I'm not too bothered

Growing up my mom worked a lot of nights and I slept in bed with both of my grandparents until I was about 6. Curled up right in the middle and I loved it, it always made me feel safe and protected.

As a co-sleeping mom I see nothing wrong with this. If you'd like to provide a bed I'm sure your request will be fulfilled

Thanks guys I definitely wasn’t judging what others do I don’t really care what other peoples sleep arrangements are for some reason I just feel really uncomfortable with it, my mum is single and has been most of her life so other men aren’t an issue and it’s not even a safe guarding issue or anything I suppose I just don’t want my kids sleeping with anyone that isn’t their parent, my mum is very over baring and crosses a lot of my personal boundaries so I suppose I just don’t want her crossing over into my territory I suppose. As for those saying to buy a bed I’m not buying a bed for someone else’s house my kids see their nan a lot and she’s said she will do up a room for them if I’m letting someone have them over night I don’t think expecting them to provide what they need to be comfortable is too much to ask for otherwise they can stay home in their own personal rooms with their own beds if she wants them to stay over regularly she needs to prioritise at least having a bed for them

Personally, i dont mind if he sleeps with his grandparents. My son is a cosleeper and hes a big cuddler. Ive slept with my grandparents too and at my big old age i would love to sleep with my grandma if i wasnt scared of breaking her🥲but i completely understand why you wouldnt and she should respect your rules

I m a cosleep mom and I would never let my child doing sleepovers or sleep with anyone else that is not me or his dad. I'm very untrustful so.

Cosleeping w parents, Gparents and any Aunties is the norm for Asian countries all they do is cosleep no baby/toddler really owns a cot until they move to a single bed. MIlL lives w us. Some mornings my son goes into her bed in the wee hours and joins her for another 2-3hrs until he wakes so it’s done here and I don’t bat an eye

Some of my kids are cuddlers like that, and some of them are not, but my mom is willing to cuddle with whichever child wants to cuddle for as long as they want to cuddle. Eventually, they age out of it and you miss that time and those snuggles.

Depends - my girls do with my mom only and it’s because they’re scared to sleep alone still lol.

My mom has lived with us for 2 years and my daughter has slept in grandma's room many nights, it never crossed my mind as being weird till now. Shoot, when we went on vacation we took grandma and had the two of them share a hotel room the whole week.

I think it’s only weird depending on the family dynamic I have boundary issues with my mum abs feel like she already try’s to play mummy too much to my kids so to me it’s weird, if you have a different relationship then it’s probably not weird you do you

I think it’s more reflective on the relationship you have with your mum, could it be possible there’s some underlying issues between the two of you that’s making you feel this way? I still had sleepovers with my nan till I was 25 (she lives far away and i’m her only grandaughter and my grandad died when I was 5) we’ve always been so close but obviously that’s irrelevant because you’re feeling a type of way about your mum having that closeness with your son? It’s great she wants to help out by having him and spending time with him, did you share a bed with her when you were young? If it’s upsetting you that much then just say when a bed is sorted a bed for him he’ll be back for sleepovers as he’s becoming a big boy now, but don’t stop them seeing each other or anything. Would it be okay if the bed is still in her room? I think maybe be a little bit more open minded about helping out with finding and getting the bed because she doesn’t want to buy a bed, you do.

I wouldn't be happy if it was me. If anyone else Co slept with my LB (he hasn't had any sleep overs and I don't plan on it anytime soon either)

But I think it comes down to if you're not comfortable with it happening it shouldn't be happening. She should respect you as the parent above all.

I don’t allow my son to have sleepovers even with grandparents however I’m due another baby in a few months and my son should be going to his grandads and I’ve said if it’s over night and my son wakes up he’ll most likely have to just let him jump in my bed with him or on the sofa together as I don’t think he’ll settle back down in his bed if we’re not there especially as he ends up in my bed every night anyway xx

I don’t think it’s a big deal, if they’re both comfortable with it then why not? He probably loves being able to sleep in the big bed with nanny and she probably loves having her little baby with her!

yeah but he’s not her baby he’s mine 🤷🏻‍♀️

I do trust her which is why I’m fine with sleep overs I said before it’s not a safe guarding issue it’s just more a boundary thing

My daughter doesn’t sleep well in a bed she had to be alone in a cot, but if she didn’t, I wouldn’t find it weird 🤷🏼‍♀️ it’s kind of sad actually that you want to stop it 😣 little boy wants to snuggle with his nanny? How is that weird?

My son is 2 and my mom has a 1 bedroom apartment. So she has an air mattress next to her bed. My son chooses to sleep in her bed. I am fine with that. He loves having sleepovers

I accidentally voted

Message me and I'll give my personal experience why this is a big NO NO

It's a red flag when women or men do not understand boundaries with children. Do not co sleep with children OF ANY AGE

I don't think it's strange. That being said though ultimately it's your child and if you don't feel comfortable then you should have your requests listened to x

I’m very sorry that you have been through this but it is definitely not the case please do not imply my mother who raised me has any kind of ill intent towards my children

Thanks for everyone’s input I can definitely see how in different cultures and dynamics it is completely fine and it’s heart warming to read so many positive stories, I love my mum and trust her with my life but unfortunately she’s had a hard time letting go of me and letting me grow and learn on my own and on a few occasions I’ve noticed she has really overstepped and tried to push me and MY KIDS into a sibling role not respecting my boundaries or authority or undermining me and it’s made me really uncomfortable I have to actively do a lot to keep these boundaries but she has a great relationship with my kids that I don’t want to interfere with. Ultimately I feel like co sleeping is very intimate between parent and child and we don’t really even do it that much as he very rarely needs it and sleeps better alone I won’t be replying to anymore comments I didn’t expect this post to blow up so much but thanks you for taking the time to comment

Sorry I wasn't trying to imply that I'm an outlier with this scenario but my mind always thinks to protect kids

My mom has my daughter a couple days while I'm at work and she refuses to sleep in travel cot now, so she goes on my mom's bed and sometimes my mom takes a nap with her don't find it weird at all, not a fan of it but it's the only way she will nap x

I used to love sleeping in my grandma’s bed even into my 10s. But, I also had my own bed so I could sleep in that room too. I think it’s important for him to at least have a choice. But I don’t think it’s weird at all unless you don’t think grandma is safe.