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Hello. I would identify myself as asexual but yes i am married and i have a child. But now that ive had my baby. I think its solidified that im done having sex. I feel bad as my partner keeps asking me but i just dont want to. Any advice on what i can do? Any other asexual moms out there? I guess this could be confusing but im not huge on being bound by a label. I have just always felt it represented me best since highschool.

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Tbh it could be that your low libido might be because your hormones weren’t leveled the way they should. Don’t know if you ever looked into that.
I would say postpartum can be partially to blame. Hormones takes a long time to regulate (up to 2years) so your libido may be gone which is normal. You can try looking into your hormones and balancing them out. You can also try supplements (like prebiotics/probiotics, magnesium etc..) and herbs that help with libido as well. Going that route does take a few weeks before seeing a change but it works and is more natural.

Definitely have an honest conversation with your partner about it

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