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Hello. I would identify myself as asexual but yes i am married and i have a child. But now that ive had my baby. I think its solidified that im done having sex. I feel bad as my partner keeps asking me but i just dont want to. Any advice on what i can do? Any other asexual moms out there? I guess this could be confusing but im not huge on being bound by a label. I have just always felt it represented me best since highschool.

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Tbh it could be that your low libido might be because your hormones weren’t leveled the way they should. Don’t know if you ever looked into that.
I would say postpartum can be partially to blame. Hormones takes a long time to regulate (up to 2years) so your libido may be gone which is normal. You can try looking into your hormones and balancing them out. You can also try supplements (like prebiotics/probiotics, magnesium etc..) and herbs that help with libido as well. Going that route does take a few weeks before seeing a change but it works and is more natural.

Definitely have an honest conversation with your partner about it

I agree with the above commenter. Just have an honest discussion with your partner about your lack of sexual desire or interest in sex. Sexual desire is normal in a relationship but if that is not something you want or desire it is better for you guys to have a real conversation about moving forward. It would be unfair to the both of you. You feeling forced to engage in sexual acts and him feeling constantly rejected and not having his needs met. Maybe you can come to a compromise but that can only happen if you are honest/ forthcoming.

I think it's worth a trip to the doctor to rule out any underlying cause before writing sex off for good. & if everything checks out & you're still not interested them there needs to be a conversation with your husband.

Also asexual with a child, I think it makes a lot of sense since the literal definition is little to no sexual attraction. The other comments could be right about hormones but its more likely just a genuine dip, aka the 'no interest' 🤷🏻‍♀️

I just want to add that asexual is valid. But also as a late in life lesbian I have seen other late in life lesbians say they thought they were asexual until they discovered they were lesbians… not saying that’s you OP but i figured I mention it just in for anyone else 🫶🏻

Are you breastfeeding? It kills your sex drive. On purpose. Its your body's way of saying 'I'm feeding a child! I don't want to make another one now! I need the energy for milk!'

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