As a couple do you have someone to go to for advise or counselling?

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My therapist. I don’t like sharing things about my marriage with friends or family.

@Sarah I guess you pay for your therapy sessions?

My partner. We don’t bring up our issues/conflicts with other people because it doesn’t solve them. It’s better for us to go to each other so we can overcome whatever the problem is and build a deeper connection with each other. The only times I’ve ever gone to a friend with anything about my relationship, it was super early in the relationship and it was always along the lines of “how do I bring this up with him?”

@Chloe what you said makes sense. But what of the situation where the partner is been so unreasonable that he refused to understand your point or even discuss issues. Sometimes people just don't listen or can't have a simple communication. 😔

In that case I would end the relationship (easier said than done I know). That’s not someone who wants to fix problems or someone you can build a partnership with. Relationships only work if both people put in the effort.

No, prefer it that way we deal with anything ourselves but if we needed to guess we'd consider confiding in a counselling perhaps

Nope, I don’t involve others in the ins and outs of our relationship. So many people dump on their partners with family and it nearly always backfires. If we have a disagreement we fix it.

My therapist would be my first choice now but we don't really have anything we can't work out between the two of us. with my first marriage, my ex was abusive and finally sharing some of the shit he has was doing with someone I knew was the start of being able to get out. Posting anonymously was another good way to get some validation before I was ready to confide in anyone i knew in real life. In those situations I think being silent about it only protects the abuser's reputation and kept me under his thumb.

We can always go to our parents if need be but we do great with resolving issues together.