Feeling crazy

My baby boy just turned 6 months and we’re still having a hard time with nap time. He won’t take naps longer than 40 mins unless he’s being carried and he still wakes up in the middle of the night for a full feed. I feel like I’m losing my mind since I thought things would be better by now. Anyone else going through this?

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I did!! Some days are better than others. I believe it is our LO really getting into the swing of things now they are more aware. And my LO wakes for a feed in the night too. He goes to bed at 7pm and wakes around 7am but at any point in the night he is up for a full 7oz of milk. It is completely normal for babies to still have a feed in the night. We have some nights he sleeps straight through but most often than not, he wakes for a feed. Also, have you tried extending your LO wake windows? I've noticed my boy sleeps for longer if I keep him awake closer to the 2.5 hour mark!x

My 5 month old also sleeps for 25 minutes 5 times a day. It's just preference. Why does it bother you?

My 5 month old takes 3-4 naps, all contact naps being carried. Have heard they grow out of contact naps at their own pace so I'm just enjoying this while it lasts. Can already see her starting to show signs of wanting to be carried less when she's awake.
She has her last feed around 9 pm and then an overnight feed around 3-4 pm. Overnight feeds are completely normal for babies. Each baby is different but I feel you mama, it can be hard when you hear of some babies who sleep through the night. Yours will get there when they are ready :)

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I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

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