My husband keeps getting into car accidents because he's sleepy when I tell him to sleep longer he refuses? AITA For singing this is too much for me to takeFor saying this is too much for me ?

Every time he gets in a accident he says because he was sleepy, the last truck accidents his job almost fired him.

He’ll be a lot more than an asshole if he kills someone while asleep at the wheel 🤷🏻‍♀️

@Rhiannon That's what I try to tell him and he gets upset with me. One night he got in a accident where the other car ended up on fire. Thank God everyone made it out alive but I thought would wake him up and it hasn't.

Wow, reading this actually really annoys me. He's putting other people's lives at risk that's so selfish. But if he won't listen to you, then he won't listen to anyone

I know this isn't the question but I almost feel like choosing to stay behind the wheel when you know you're too tired to drive safely should be just as criminal as choosing to drive when you're too drunk to drive safe.

I hope he listens to someone soon before something really tragic happens, he might think it'd never happen to him but people are killed in car accidents every day :(

Why is he only sleeping for 2-4 hours a day?? 😳

I would be asking him if he has an up to date copy of his will, any life insurance documents and bank account passwords - when he asks why, just tell him you’re making sure you have all this stuff ready now as you’ll probably need it within the next few months when he dies. Ask him what photo he wants to go on his coffin, what song choice he wants, cremated or buried etc. I would ram the point home because honestly, that is what you will be faced with.

He is being disgustingly selfish and one only hopes he doesn’t kill anyone else with his recklessness.

@Michelle Our insurance is sky high almost $300 for one car because of his driving

Why he doesn't sleep what he does he do?

creative

He says that's what he is used to and has been sleeping like this for decades

Incog make him listen to this: https://www.youtube.com/live/pwaWilO_Pig?si=EGkYLkSZVE0jmQsh

Make him also read his book “Why we sleep”. It is a real game changer for anyone who wants to understand why sleep is so important. I can’t remember the exact quote but I’m pretty sure it was something like people who get less than 6hrs sleep a day their life expectancy drops by 10 or 15 years. That is insane! If you have children, does he not want to be around to watch them grow up? He really is literally playing in the grim reaper’s face daily.

Take the driving out of the situation, is he not worried about heart attacks/stroke/diabetes/Alzheimer’s etc? 😵‍💫

If that was the father of my kids I would call the cops on him when he goes out to drive. Or his company or whatever. Report him for being a tired driver. Better him losing his job than his LIFE. Maybe he needs a new career. That could be the kick up his backside to sort his life out.

@Neena I've asked he doesn't care about wills, life insurance and he's the main income and I don't have access to his account. The last accident made me think what me and my child would do if he died in a accident .

Is he playing a game what does he do when sleeping time comes

Oh dear Incog, no will, life insurance etc? That is terrible. It seems like selfishness is a common theme with your husband.

If he died tomorrow, I sincerely hope you have some back up plan because funerals are expensive!! Even basic as fuck ones. Did you know that taking out loans to pay for funerals is one of the increasing reasons why people are taking them out? Even higher than holidays and cars?

And he doesn’t even have life insurance? 🤦🏽‍♀️ Girl you need to figure something out before this bozo leaves you destitute in the afterlife paying for his mistakes.

watching TV and other things I don't really know

Needs to see a sleep medicine doc. And doctor should write that he isn’t cleared to drive until he fixes this. He is putting himself and you at huge risk - if he falls asleep and kills a family, he (and you) will be in legal, financial and psychological trouble for the rest of your lives

I agree this behavior is already very concerning not mention dangerous for himself and others on the road.
When you add it no life insurance on top of that…. He would be leaving his family in a horrible financial situation if something happened to him.

Also, there are very strict requirements of truck drivers to take a break every 8 hours to sleep. If he is ignoring that it is only a matter of time before he looses his job because he is a liability to the company

I pressed yes by mistake whilst scrolling! Sorry I didn’t mean to!

Incog you said he’s watching TV shows as to why he’s only getting 2-4hrs sleep - is this whilst he’s on the road? Or at home with you?

When was the last time he had a full health check-up? Could there be an underlying reason why he’s staying up so late?

Would he be open to changing careers?

If he genuinely refuses to change anything or listen to reason, I would be looking to divorce and move on. At least it will save you living on eggshells wondering if the next knock on door or phone call will be from the police telling you he’s dead. It’s literally only a matter of time.

I mean he acts as if he’s a single man anyway with no life insurance, Will etc. go let him be one then! Why get married and have kids if you don’t want to listen to what your spouse has to say 🤷🏽‍♀️

@Neena It's when he's home he has annual check up because of CDL he doesn't want to change careers . I'm to the point of being done. If he died today, he's driving now, I don't know what me and my daughter would do and that's scary thought.

Men always think they don’t need much sleep yet when not distracted, they can fall asleep almost instantly. Enforce taking away distractions to get more sleep.