Dying to have sex but partner won't use a condom

I can't have the pill for a few months because of blood clot risk

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Why won’t your partner use a condom? 🤔

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He would rather 'pull out' whereas I'd rather not bother as I don't want to get pregnant so soon

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He's being stupid, you are quite right 'pull out' is not effective. Have you looked at other kinds of contraception rather than the pill? I've had the coil and implant in the past, getting the implant again in January.

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I've had the coil before and wasn't the greatest fan, my argument is why is it always us that has to take the precautionary measures

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My partner is getting a vasectomy, he also doesn't want to use condoms and I've told him no condom = no penetrative sex till he's had his vasectomy and checkup

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Yes I agree with you, it makes me mad that it’s us women who have to fill our precious body full of hormones just so we can have sex. I’ve told my partner that I’m not going to get on contraception because I’ve tried them all and my body rejected all of them so if he won’t use a condom we’re not having sex. I might get the copper coil fitted next year but am hesitant because I had it before and I was bleeding heavily for months. I didn’t want to put my body through that just yet so soon after giving birth

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My Jan baby is a pull out baby 😂😂 so tell him that 🙃 to add though, we would have taken more precautions if we really weren't wanting another baby.
He needs to step up, it's not even like you're asking him for something permanent. Don't compromise on this and stand your ground. My husband will be getting a vasectomy as we have 2 children now and that's all we both want and he's seen how I don't get on with birth control - I usually follow fertility awareness instead.

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If it were me, I'd tell him simply - no condom, no intercourse. Have sex in other ways if you want to, but I wouldn't want to have any type of sex with someone who didn't respect my boundaries tbh.

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