How to tell my best friend I’m pregnant

Our dads have been best friends since they were 16 and then had daughters the same year so we were born best friends.
She is about 6 weeks pregnant, I was the first to know(about 5 seconds after she found out). I just found out I’m about 3 weeks pregnant and want to tell her in a cute way, but also don’t know how really or if I should wait! I was thinking maybe matching onesies, but then I have to wait for them to come in.

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Me and my best friend had the same thing where I messaged her like omg with a picture of my positive pregnancy test and then a few weeks later she facetimed me like “Guess what” was so nice to be able to go through the pregnancy together! When will you next be able to see her? If it’s soon you could do the onesies but make sure she doesn’t think they’re both for hers or that could be awkward 😂 if it won’t be for a while i’d just tell her!

We live 10 minutes apart so I can see her whenever, she’s on her way home from Niagara right now and told me to come over when she’s home. If I see her in person though there’s no way I wouldn’t tell her 😅 I love this idea because I want to do it cute but I don’t want to wait haha She has a circuit so maybe I’ll tell her we should make something and send her a template for “third generation besties” on a onesie!

Incognito. I like the idea of saying hey I have a insie idea for you and then tell her what you want to put on it

Love the 3rd generation onesie idea

Matching onesies would work if you have prime on amazon x

Have to say it's a great story ♡ congratulations to both of you.

Thanks everyone! I’ve decided I’m going to go to her place Thursday because “I need to use her circuit” and then pull up the third generation bestie idea!
It’s going to be hard to wait 😅 but my husband and I agreed a long time ago he’ll know first and I decided to tell him Christmas morning.

Me and my best friend got pregnant around the same time too. Such a blessing! We’re hoping our sons become best mates too (slyly encouraging it with regular play dates etc😅) I would tell her whenever you feel comfortable to 😊

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

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We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Baby groups?

Hello there!!
I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
We live in the area of Croydon & need to start going to baby groups ( I NEED it more than him though) but I am a little bit clueless. Any recommendations?
We are happy to travel a bit too.
Thanks ☺️