Nursing in public

My little has started trying to rip the cover up I have when I nurse in public. Have any of you dealt with this and what did you do or use to stop it?

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not sure if this is helpful but in my experience My son absolutely hates his face covered. He thinks it’s so funny when I try to put the cover back on him I’ve learned to not even care what other people think, I just gotta do what I Gotta do to get My Baby fed and quite frankly I haven’t ran into people who care that much about it honestly.

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I never tried the cover… I couldn’t imagine feeling so restricted while eating. I follow @thelittlemilkbar_ on IG and the whole page is about empowering women to breastfeed in public. The reality is, women show more wearing v necks & bikinis. So I put that into perspective and I feed my baby without a cover. Some will look, some will judge, but my child needs to eat and I choose to focus my priority on that instead of the people in public I’ll never see again

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I agree with the others. I wear nursing tanks from Target to keep my stomach covered when nursing. I've been breastfeeding for 4 years now (between 2 kids). I tried to use a cover in the very beginning but it was not worth the frustration to me. I've always hoped I would have the guts to toss a blanket at anyone who had something to say about it and tell them to cover their own head if they don't like it, but that hasn't come up yet (other than my own mother 🙄 and she didn't find it nearly as funny as I did).🤣

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right! my mother was just so baffled at the site of seeing me breast-feed without covering myself And I tried to explain to her “why should I cover out for other people if I’m just trying to feed my baby” but she just couldn’t wrap her head around lol

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she's been on me to stop feeding to sleep, cosleeping, contact napping, and pretty much everything else I do. 😅 Like you can barely see anything with a tank top on. I just nod and go on about my business. 🤷🏼‍♀️

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I agree with the other moms saying you don't owe it to others to cover for their comfort. I cover sometimes for my comfort or for warmth and I tell my husband to hold the hem of the cover or blanket so that it doesn't move when the baby inevitably grabs and plays with it. It works, but it makes breastfeeding a two-person job. Or I use a long receiving blanket and try to tuck the end under my knee or thigh.

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