Why do some mothers treat their sons better than their daughters?

So my bro and I were living together. He was always late with his half of rent she would take up for him and day we'll atleast hes paying something.

I couldn't throw him out bc I got into an accident and lost my job and could never recover. If I wasn't ubering down to school( nursing) I was at court ... eventually I got evicted.

I was the only one that cleaned the place up my brother high tailed it to my mom's 4 days earlier .. now me and my kids are with my mom and I can sense the resentment. Whenever my daughter needs something my mom always says, " ask yout mother" everytime she needs a juice box opened she says here and hands it to me.

I always get up at 7a and by noon I'm taking the kids out for 4ish hours and return when it's time for my mom to go to work..so she can get some sleep.

I sense the resentment.. I never left my kids with my mom for days at a time, I've always cared for them alone, helped my mom financially and sometimes I was the only person getting her bday gifts.

Yet she wants me to chauffer my 35yr old brother around..I don't understand it. When I get my tax money I'll go into a hotel of my own for a peace of mind. Until then what can I do to remain sane?

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Sometimes I’ve noticed with moms that the husband isn’t either involved at all or just kinda there the moms sub their sons for the love and attention they don’t get from their partners. There’s also the idea of looking at the daughter has competition and there’s resentment there. There’s sooooo many different theories out there but I think those are the main ones that I come across.

Also the idea that boys love their mom more “mommy’s boy” “daddy’s girl” kinda thing.

My mom had my sister, then me, then there’s a 7 almost 8 year gap between me and my first half brother,

Everything that we were told we couldn’t do or have, they got. TV’s in their bedrooms, laptops whenever they asked, game systems (we never got anything besides a ds)

For my mom her explanation of like no tv or computer in our bedrooms for us as girls was the safety aspect, she didn’t feel the same dread or worry with her sons having access to the internet I guess. But it’s still annoying as fuck to look back at how my life went vs how my brothers got to live. In the same house.

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Is this normal?

Is it just my husband that does this? He is able to work from home via his computer and in the mornings and evenings he is on there doing his job. When he is done for the day he tends to stay in the room and either play video games or watch something. He will occasionally come out and play with the girls for a few minutes and that’s it but when I really need him he says he is busy. My daughters are both 1 year old now and I am just wondering how much involvement should he have with them now?
Idk if this is the norm or not…..

Saying NO to buying toys etc

5 year old is getting really envious of others. He is obsessed with items that other kids have at school. I am pestered daily to buy these things in a different style when we already have 3 others. I have seen parents just buying stuff their kid likes which I don't necessarily agree with even when i can afford it. How do you deal with it?

Daycare?

Thoughts on daycare?? Truly, I am SCARED to be leaving my kid for daycare. I literally do not trust anyone, not even family (they haven’t given me a reason it’s just trust issues on my end, you never know). He’s turning 3 and I’ve been a sahm the whole time but tbh my man doesn’t make enough for us to move out somewhere more calm . We live in a ‘not so safe’ area in LA and I’m just not used to living here so I just want us to give my son a better life and in order to speed up the process I would have to work.. I do lashes at home and I’d be open to take new clients so I wouldn’t have to look for work but I’m just scared to lose my license 😭

Thoughts?

your soon to be brother in law (upon inquiry) told you that only a few kids from the family were attending his wedding because they are over the age cut off..

Tablet for kids

Alright don’t need any negative Nancy’s telling me not to get my 2yo a tablet so if that’s what your gunna do please don’t participate in my poll.

We’re about to move cross country 3+ day trip and my 2yo and 9m hate the car I’m talking scream their heads off till they are out of their seats. We’ve already changed car seats and it didn’t help so I’d like to at least have one entertained and sit next to baby and try and distract her or put her to sleep. Our new car has tvs but since they are rear faced my 2yo can’t see it.

Debating getting her a tablet or dvd player right now on long car rides I end up giving her my phone because I get so overwhelmed sitting in between both of them screaming and crying.

And yes I do bring different toys I bring snacks I play songs try to distract her other ways but for the sake of not losing my mind on this move I think this is best.

-A very overwhelmed and anxious to move mama 😓

Separation Anxiety

My baby is nearly 6 months old and has just entered the separation anxiety stage… this evening I was trying to cook dinner whilst my husband was with the baby and he was just crying every time he couldn’t see me, with full blown hysterical sobbing, and as soon as he saw me again he started giggling and smiling. Any tips on how to stop this? And how long might this phase last?
My husband felt pretty disheartened and upset 😢