I realised I never get compliments from him, not even when I’m dressed up or even a “hey beautiful” like nothing ever. I brought this up to him and he said I’m being dramatic and he wouldn’t be with me if he didn’t think I was so I should accept he thinks I am without him saying it
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Same here 🥲

Multiple times a day and I don’t really get dressed up these days. Earlier, I was still in my pyjamas with unbrushed hair, when he made a point to say something.
You’re not being dramatic. And even if his reasoning is sound, it’s still nice to feel appreciated, feel beautiful! It takes seconds for him to say, but it can boost my confidence all day to hear it from him!

I wore a dress for the first time in about 8 months on Christmas day, as I feel very self conscious about my tummy... My husband told me I looked really nice from behind! Which he felt was a compliment & couldn't understand why I was offended. Needless to say there was a lot of tension in the air on Christmas morning 🤦♀️😅

My Hubby says it just sometimes, but i don't say anything to him too, so I think its fair 🤣 everyday life takes you in so deeply you just forget those little things, also some people are not saying that at all just because it's not their love language 🙂

My husband compliments me all the time but I rarely compliment him 😅 After giving birth to both of our boys, I look a mess. He still compliments me 🥺🫶🏼

Definitely at least once everyday. He loves when I’m comfortable so he often compliments me even when I feel like I look awful 😂. His love language is touch so I often respond with an arm/back rub, hug or cuddle, or kiss.

Sometimes but it seems half hearted. Saying you’re just supposed to know is bullshit. If he wants you to know how he feels he needs to express it in no uncertain terms. Otherwise he’s knowingly leaving you to come to your own conclusions which may be quite different

I used to go out with a guy like this and I found it really hard. We rarely had sex and he wouldn’t kiss/cuddle me much. It was too hard for me and I feel like he might have said something similar when I brought it up. But I spoke to my mum about it and she said I deserved those things in my relationship. Now I’m married and my husband always kisses and cuddles me multiple times throughout the day, and gives me a decent amount of compliments. I think we all have our love languages and the things we need to feel safe and secure in our relationships. Meeting each others needs is part of being in a relationship, you’re not being dramatic. He isn’t being very caring by the sounds of it :(

Rarely

I roll out of bed and he calls me a sexy wife 😂😂😂
I tell him he’s blind 🤷🏼♀️😂

All the time, most of the time when I'm in Pajamas or sweats, with no makeup and a super messy bun. I also compliment my husband all the time, and think it's important to teach our son and any future kid for their future relationships. I grew up watching my parents compliment each other all the time, and my husband didn't and all he remembers is all the fighting they did (they separated by the time he was 4 and divorced by the time he was 6). I remember the first time he saw my parents complimenting eachother and I think he was a little surprised to see they still did after all that time together, but I think at that moment he liked the idea, thought it made sense and started to do so more often.
Just because "if he didn't think so, he wouldn't be with you" isn't a good reason, he should still be able to express his thoughts and you should still hear it and it can boost your confidence and help you feel better.

All the damn time. I lowkey feel like he’s lying because I could look a mess and he’d say I look beautiful 😭 or now I wear bra and underwear and I just had a baby so I have tummy fat and this man would just randomly say “babe u look sexy “ and I’m like huh I look gross 😭

Daily, if not multiple times a day. Especially first thing in the morning. He always says he wants me to start my day knowing he thinks I’m beautiful. Even when I’m in my bum attire. It takes only a moment to brighten your partner’s day.

At least twice a day but so far today about 15 times lol

same. I’m pp and look like a troll and he’s like you’re sexy as I feel like the Pillsbury dough boy 😒
But also my husbands love language is words of affirmation so that’s important to him where I am more acts of service. So while it’s nice to hear it means less to me.

Laughing with respect 😂 my husband has some weird ass compliments sometimes too. He probably didn’t pick his words right🥹

He compliments every time I dress up, if he doesn’t say it with words he will say it with his eyes. On a daily basis I get mostly my ass slapped or my boobs grabbed followed by a DAAAAMN 😂

I think it’s normal for people to not constantly compliment their partner. I don’t compliment my partner all the time. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him or think he’s attractive. Have you told him you really like when he compliments you and you would like for him to do it more often? Even if you know he loves you, it’s still nice to hear it 🤷♀️

@Victoria~ i think not constantly is very different from never, even when dressed up, which is what op said.

I don't keep track of exactly how often, but it's frequent enough that I always feel loved and important to him.

None of these options. Sometimes but not only when I’m dressed up. He’ll say I look nice if I make an effort but also randomly say nice things. But not regularly enough to say all the time