If a woman is turned on by lesbian porn, is she queer?

So I used to be bi curious until I slept with a few different women and realised I’m not into them sexually or romantically. If I watched lesbian porn now, I’d still get turned on by it, but I genuinely believe I’m not queer. I get very excited by certain men in a way that I have never felt with a woman. I don’t have a problem with queer people, and I wouldn’t feel ashamed if I were to discover that I was (I’m very open about these experiences). Just curious to know if others feel the same or if I’m possibly in denial?

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I think it’s because straight porn is SO centered around men. Do women want to watch blow jobs and odd angles clearly for men?? No we don’t 😂

With lesbian porn, women are the sole focus so maybe that’s it? Although I sometimes think lesbian porn is too aimed at men too 😂

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Lesbian porn is honestly my favorite category. Honestly sexuality is a spectrum and it’s okay to find the thought of women being together sexually as appealing without actually being attracted to women.

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I think there are stats that show the most popular search for women is lesbian, so you're definitely not alone! Like others have said, most porn is for the male gaze so doesn't appeal to a lot of women. Too thrust-y and focused on BJs for most 🤣

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I don’t know I think that it’s hard to say since being bi is stigmatized/not widely accepted etc . I’m thinking that people who claim to be hetro may not be comfortable to be categorized as bi or otherwise etc in my opinion but I’m not sure haven’t really looked it up in depth . But do know that it’s said to be common. Then there’s the whole sigmund Freud theory

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I think people think way too hard about things like this, what is the point of labeling yourself over watching a video? I watch videos of other people doing things I will never do everyday. I’ve watched videos of people skydiving and eating bugs. Neither of those are on my bucket list.
Is a man queer if he watches another naked man? Even if he is with a woman, you’re still watching a video of a man who is naked? Isn’t that a little bit queer? Same for women?
Will someone walk around telling everyone they are a part of the lgbtq+ community because they watched a video of other people doing things that are lqbtq+. I’m sure some people will.

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I watch lesbian porn and get turned on by it more then straight porn. But as a women, I don't want to watch someone suck a dick for 95% of a video. Gets me nowhere and that's pretty much all straight porn, geared towards the man's pleasure whereas lesbian porn is 100% women.
I'm straight and the fact I mainly watch lesbian porn doesn't have me questioning my sexuality, straight porn is just shit padded out with bad acting.

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I'm not answering the poll as I don't think their is an answer.

Although it's nice to have an answer, we are all different, and we are all who we are! Theirs no right or wrong answer, and it's okay to be who you are!

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I watch some things I find very exciting to watch, some very weird kinks, but I am not at all interested or excited in doing it myself !
Dont put too much thought on it let it flow and follow your instincts !

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When I watched porn, my favorite category was lesbian. Though I do believe there has to be some kind of attraction. I’m not sure it 100% means you’re into women if you don’t fantasize about one. As a queer individual (that’s literally what I label as) I think sexuality is a long term for many things. I wouldn’t worry about it unless it’s 100% eating away at you or it’s what you find attractive outside of sexuality. Remember, sexuality does not equal romantic. Best of luck to you.





Also I really hate to be that guy but as a person who identifies as queer to take the word back possibly, I’d rather others that don’t identify with the word queer/gay/lesbian to not say it as it IS still a slur. Please don’t throw around the word queer if you aren’t comfortable identifying as same sex attraction !! This is not directed towards anyone specifically but I hate thinking maybe people are uneducated about it. 💗💗💗💗💗

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