Less oz

Hi!! So my baby has been consistently a 32oz formula baby for months and months even with real food and purées. He’s into food but very picky and doesn’t eat a lot. He’s turned one in just a few days so I’m trying to get him used to less oz since when we switch to whole milk I’ve heard you should really only do 16-20oz? So the last two days we’ve been trying around 20oz and he’s waking at night for the first time in months and seems hungry. How do I get him to eat more actual food (he eats a little and then throws on floor)? Or is there anything else I can give him with more cals? This transition has me stressing.

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I'm having the same trouble with my daughter.
We actually wound up adding an extra bottle instead of reducing. But she also 3 three meals and 2 snacks a day. We have her doctor's appointment next week, so I'm just running with it at this point. She turned 1 about 2 weeks ago

I'm struggling with this too. She just never really seems satiated with the amount of solid food she gets in the day. She turns 1 tomorrow and I keep seeing that we're supposed to be done with formula by now, but that doesn't sit right with me because I want to make sure she's getting enough nutrition. (And I have two tubs of formula left that I don't want to waste anyways ugh) And she wakes up hungry once a night too. Definitely going to be a topic for our pediatrician as well. I'm going to go with the "every baby is different" route atm and assume it's fine if we feel we gotta still supplement with formula a little longer.

So I was told my pedi the most I could give him was 24 ounces. I split it up in 3-4 bottles depending on what kind of day we are having. Since your baby isn’t sleeping through the night I would save the larger bottle for night & you can even add some baby food or oatmeal to help fill him up. But we do a 8oz when he wakes up and 8 ounce with baby food before bed.

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I'm open to anything else to start teaching him to read and write. He's 3!

Do men really enjoy fellatio?

Been together more than 10 years, but it's been a while since he even seemed remotely interested in me getting on my knees, or vice versa so to speak. I think it was once last year. Must be something I am doing wrong 🤔. Generally everything else in that department is great and we have two young kids with no extra support, so it's quite surprising we can't keep our hands off each other but may need to try new things. It's basically 2 positions each time with some foreplay.

I think Motherhood has made me more bitter than I realized…

This is such a ramble but I don’t know where else to put it all.

I’m four months in and I don’t really have hobbies right now. I don’t do anything for myself except maybe doomscrolling or listening to a podcast while I breastfeed my baby. I used to craft and have game nights with friends. Activities that usually are at least 2 hour stretches. Now if I have an hour free my mind immediately goes to baby, or doing something in the house for baby.

And I thought I didn’t mind. Like I knew postpartum could be very mentally consuming. But I think it’s altering how I view people around me and it’s prodding at my relationship with my husband.

He spends most of his time making food for us, looking after our dogs, playing with the baby, ect. But he still has time for his hobby. Spends maybe an hour a night on it. Even adapted to using a bot for shopping for his hobby after a certain incident where we had to have a heart to heart after he left me home alone with the baby for hours during a busy workday (I work from home) to shop for his hobby.

And yet there’s like this little green eyed monster in me that rages every time I know he’s running off to start up the bot. Even though I’m the reason he does it this way.

We took a family trip last weekend to see his best friend and their kids and let them meet the baby. He brought the laptop. He’s always brought a laptop on trips and it’s never been a problem to me before. But one night we both woke up while the baby was still asleep, and he wandered out of the room. I tried to fall back asleep but couldn’t. So I went to the kitchen to try having something warm to drink to settle me. And he was there at the table running the bot from his laptop. I flipped out at him. But there really wasn’t reason to. It’s not like I needed help with the baby and he was ignoring me. He wasn’t avoiding our friends. He was just awake and unable to sleep and found something to do with his time. Yet my snap reaction was “why the hell would you do this on a family trip?”

I don’t know what it is. Maybe it’s the less complete sleep from baby’s middle of the night feed? My brain being just consumed by baby? Maybe I’m not as over that shopping incident as I thought? But I’m just so annoyed at his hobby right now. The green eyed monster thinks “you could be using that time differently” but realistically to do what exactly??? Stare at our baby in the dark???

I spent probably an hour apologizing to him after I snapped. And he’s of course hurt and frustrated because I said some very mean things in the moment.

I don’t want to be this jealous, angry person. But I also don’t know how to find time for myself in this right now outside of basic hygiene. It’s like I’ve forgotten how to be myself, even if just for an hour.

Maybe I need a therapist.

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Has anyone used alcohol free vanilla in their babies formal to help them drink?
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Just anxious to try it, don’t want her to get used to it and then refuse bottles again after two weeks of using (correct me if I’m wrong but I’ve read you use it for 2 weeks max)

TIA 🙂