Pregnancy loss, stillbirth and infant loss 👼

I didn’t know where else to post this.

My LG is almost 3 months old and she is almost always in her swing. I have anticipatory anxiety and it sucks. I would love nothing more than to love her and show her attention/affection, I’m just scared something might happen if I get attached. I absolutely love her to death, but I don’t think I’d be able to deal with losing her if I get too attached. I had 4 miscarriages before I got pregnant with her and she is my rainbow baby.

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Aw man, this is so tough! Give yourself grace, it’s good that you recognize where these feelings are coming from and that you want different. Have you considered therapy?

I have had 2 miscarriages and 2 living children and all four times I was attached the second I found out I was pregnant, being attached has no impact on weather you would lose them or not and it would make it harder if you did lose her you would have to live with the regret of not showing her how much you loved her in the time you had with her, show her your love it won’t make her anymore or any less vulnerable to something happening … just my opinion anyway

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