Desperate

I'm so beyond desperate for help with my 9 month old. I had my appendix removed. And I'm not allowed to lift more than 10 lbs. My daughter's 23lbs. My husband works 6 days a week and is out of PTO. My mother can't help she has cancer heart failure and other things. I have no friends or anyone else here. I'm not from Maryland. If I over do anything I'll have to have another surgery for a hernia. I'm at a loss of what to do. But the stress and depression from it is really affecting my healing 😮‍💨

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What about doing everything in the floor? Diaper changes, meals, literally everything.

Hi! I was in a similar position but with pelvic and SPD. I literally was in bed with my baby ALL day until my husband came home and did tummy time, bath for her etc. we did tummy time in bed, feeding in bed, she stayed in bed while I went bathroom , EVERYTHING. She even had to take naps cosleeping.

the problem is she's crawling, and starting to climb. I can't chase and redirect or pick her up at all. I can't lift her into the bath for baths, I can't lift her into her highchair to eat etc

I'd love to do that but my daughter will not just hangout she's constantly trying to climb all over me and crawl right off the bed

I’m not sure if it is available to you but if you are eligible, the family medical leave act can help give your partner time off to help you. Unfortunately it would likely be unpaid leave https://www.dol.gov/agencies/whd/fmla/family-caregiver

See if your insurance will pay for a nurse to come to your house and help you with what you need

I had to have surgery and wasn’t allowed to lift anything for a few weeks. My partner couldn’t take time which made things a nightmare, but it’s doable. Baby proof an area like the bedroom, play area, lounge room. Use baby gates if you have to. do everything on the floor like feeding, changing, playing etc when your husband gets home he can do bath and all the heavy stuff. Maybe ask your hospital if they have home visits they might be able to help out. Advertise for somone to help out if you can afford it, neighbours

make a baby proofed area?

Awww I’m sorry you’re going through this if I had a car I would love to come help ! Your actually not to far from me and me and my two little one are just cooped up in the house everyday while my husband works

See if your state has perform care. In NJ it's a free service that can help with child care & finding resources.

in our community

Hour night wakes and 5am get up

Can anyone shed some light as to why on earth my child doesn’t want to sleep??? My eyeballs are bleeding!!

Never been a good sleeper, but the problems always changing. He’s nearly 9 months old.

Beginning of the month he dropped to 2 naps. We could put him to bed at 7pm and he’d get up for the day at 6am, with multiple wake ups every 2/3 hours.

Now we put him down at 7pm, he can do a good 4/5 hour stretch, but come 1/2am he’s up every hour then getting up for the day at 5am. This then completely messes up the day because I can’t keep him awake long enough to even get to 7pm, let alone later.

He has 2 naps, roughly about 1hr10 each but it changed based on when he wakes and trying to get him to a reasonable bed time.

What could be the reason for this? 6am is fine, but 5am is not 😩😩

Help! First time mum -

I have a 4 month old and now all of a sudden when he’s been asleep for 1hr30/2hrs he will wake up screaming (high pitched) I’ve tried winding him sometimes that helps, I’ve tried bicycle legs & bringing his knees up but that doesn’t seem to help but he brings his knees up himself sometimes but nothing happens. I’ve noticed since the 4 month mark he has started to struggle passing wind downwards! Any tips?

Help meeee

!!All advice welcome!! My 5 month old (nearly 6mo) is just not sleeping . Not for naps and not at night . She can’t connect her cycles . We started sleep regression at 3 months but in like how is this nearly been going on for a further 3 months . Like surely not . She has 10 min naps in crib ( which take so much effort ) and maybe 20/30 min naps in my arms/pushchair . She wakes minimum every hour at night with guaranteed false start 20 mins in . I combo feed. I breastfeed her until almost asleep then place her in the next to me crib give her the pacifier and put my hand on her cheek/face for 20 seconds and she drifts off . It’s not really getting her to sleep that’s the issue it’s she just won’t stay asleep . She doesn’t even need to feed much at night usually 1-2 breastfeeds . The rest is comfort wakes needing her pacifier or my hand on her cheek . I’ve looked into sleep associations and independent sleep and I broke the feed to sleep association and rocking and do bedside comforting instead for most wakes which has now lead to my hand being a sleep association on her face . I’m just so exhausted my husband is working mon-fri 9-9 and it’s just me . I haven’t had more than 4 hours in a row since her birth . I can’t get anything done during the day . She is so clingy and cries if I leave room /put her down etc. I love her so much but we both need rest . If anyone has any tips or a routine that could help PLEASE tell me I’ll try anything 🥲❤️❤️

Feeds

How many times a night are your little ones getting up? My daughter is every 90-110 minutes. I am absolutely exhausted and don’t know how much more I can cope

Over supply of milk

I am nearly 5weeks postpartum and I have such a big over supply of BM.
Has anyone donated / sold their supply, if so where do you recommend for this?

I think its fair

Me and my partner agreed to sleep in 1 day of the weekend.
He doesn't find it fair to look after both kids (my 4 year old isnt his) while i sleep so he looks after the baby while i sleep and my toddlers at his dads and ill look after both the next day.
Straightaway it was pretty unfair as i let him sleep in until he wakes up 10-12
He wakes me up when baby starts fussing because he wants milk (doesnt need it)
I cant pump as i dont supply enough.
So i get woken at 9/9:30 to feed baby then i get him sleep then theres no point sleeping in as my toddlers being dropped off.
I also find it unfair that i get both kids to sleep most night, i get my toddler to sleep everyday hes home (4/5days) and i get my baby to sleep most nights with the exception of maybe twice a month as his dad struggless then about 95% of his thru the day naps.
I have also been unwell for a few months (tumor scare) and am waiting 18 weeks to see a specialist so im obviously petrified for that, so unbelievably tired and alot of aches and pains, specifically these pounding headaches ive been having.
After i had been up til 11:30 getting both kids to sleep lastnight and my partner falling asleep at 10 then him ignoring the baby cries all morning until my toddler woke up im fed up slammed to door and rold him not to expect to sleep in unless he gets the baby to sleep the night b4.
I keep having issues with him not feeling the wet from baby being sick or weeing himself or being able to smell it do about 98% of the time hes given to me i have to clean him up n change him.
Including at night, we agreed my partner would change nappies (1 a night at 5am) while i feed (2,4,5,6:30) but every night when i get him hes pissed through and my partner gets annoyed when i wake him up n moan about it.
Then the morning after hes annoyed at how much washing there is (thats his job) and moans about how often i change myself (baby constantly shits thru and sicks on me) and baby
Honestly im just so tired all the time