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What do you think about breastfeeding in front of visitors in your home?

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I breastfeed everywhere. i am not going to miss out on time with people because someone sexualises the most nature thing of all - feeding your baby. that's crazy to me

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Personally I used to leave into another room, if I have guests over then I’m aware that not everyone is comfortable with it, including myself. When I was dealing with a newborn I couldn’t be discreet at all so i just took myself upstairs where I didn’t need to worry about flashing my nips to my father in law

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You should be able to breastfeed wherever you'd like, especially in your own home but personally, I like to go somewhere more private to nurse.

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Personally I’d feed my child anywhere x

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I feed anywhere and everywhere. If someone has a problem with it then they can leave as far as I’m concerned. It’s the most natural thing in the world. Don’t get me wrong I’m subtle about it and whilst I don’t cover myself as such, I won’t leave nips on show!

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I would usually go into their room and nurse in the rocking chair because it was the feeding spot and I’m a creature of habit, but I wasn’t like hiding away. I would have no qualms about doing it in front of guests.

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I do what I want when I want in my home if I need to feed and comfort my children in my home then that’s precisely what I will do . If anyone has issue with this they are free at anytime to leave my home. I feed my children any and everywhere as there are laws set in place nationwide protecting women to do so without covers if they wish

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It depends, close friends and my family I'd feed her in front of them, but if it's the in laws I'd go upstairs to our bedroom or the nursery (partially because it's an excuse to escape for a bit 😂)

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Around the in laws mostly my FIL/BIL I’ll cover but my MIL and SIL idc. Even when we are at their house I’ll cover. It also helps her get a full feed cause she’s at the “what was the noise” stage lol even when we are home alone sometimes I’ll cover cause she gets distracted by the 2 year old

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I'll breastfeed wherever I am, altho I don't just wack my whole boob out. I make it as discreet as I can without covering my baby up

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I have to go in a different room since my daughter has FOMO and won't eat if there are people in the room 🙄🤣 Otherwise, I'd feed her anywhere

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I’d have zero issues breastfeeding naked with close female friends and family. 😅
However, if my dad was around or my friend’s male partner or another friend to whom I am not very close, I would cover up and try and be as discreet as possible, but I would never leave the room no. If they’re uncomfortable they’re welcome to leave.

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I breastfeed in front of anyone and anywhere

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I breastfeed in front of my friends and my MIL sister in law but any extended family members I personally like to cover or go into a different room

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Depends what your comfortable with (don't worry about anyone else!)

I will breastfeed everywhere and in front of anyone.

My partner was a bit uncertain at the beginning with his family coming because he didn't know if they would feel comfortable. I said I don't care if they don't feel comfortable they can go into another room 😂😂. They're absolutely fine with it now and don't bat an eyelid.

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I voted my house my breast, at the beginning of my BF journey we had some troubles so I did used to hide, once I was more confident I'd do it whereever baby needed!

Long as you are comfortable 😌

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I’ll breastfeed anywhere and won’t go and hide in private unless baby is going through a real FOMO phase and won’t latch. If someone feels uncomfortable they can just not look at my boob or they can leave the room. I’m not going to hide, especially in my own house. I’ve had plenty of conversations with people and they haven’t even realised I’ve been feeding!

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I think it should be left completely up to you. When my son was a baby I exclusively pumped, my husbands siblings and niece came and stayed in our small apartment for a week, we all get along so I was cool with it, he has a little brother that was about 11 at the time and I chose to go pump in my room most of the time, it wasn't forced but it was how I was most comfortable. But one night we were all watching a movie and I chose to pump in the living room since the lights were off and we were all watching the TV anyway, no one cared or was weird about it. When I visited my brother and sil after they had a baby she would breastfeed in front of me but if my other brother was there she chose to go in her room. Moral of the story is do whatever you're comfortable with. If you feel okay doing it in front of visitors then you should and they shouldn't mind, if you feel comfortable in privacy then you should do that. The choice should be solely yours, there's nothing weird about breastfeeding.

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Personally I would just want to leave the room and do it privately unless it’s like my side of family and my friends. If it’s my partners family and friends I wouldn’t do it infront of them I’d feel uncomfortable

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If I was breastfeeding and Vistiors came to my house I would do where I feel comfortable

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lol I don’t agree with him but he thinks the mum should leave the room to another room if his friends are over.

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I was generally fine in front of everyone except FIL and some other males in our life but it depended on my mood and I would just cover up as much as possible where possible if I felt uncomfortable. I know shouldn’t feel that was but my body my choice I guess!

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It depended who it was 🤷‍♀️ and how I felt lol
I got overwhelmed if there was a lot of people around plus I liked it to be our time together so in that case I would go upstairs

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Lol. I just whip it out. I'll feed my baby wherever she needs feeding. Same goes if I'm in a restaurant. Out it comes.
Only time I've gone upstairs or somewhere else is if it's really loud or busy and overwhelming.

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I nurse in front of women, usually. I'm a bit of an introvert so it's the best excuse to get away from people. If my husband has men over they usually go outside so I can feed.
I think it's whatever mom is comfortable with

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I breastfeed every where

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I’d rather they didn’t gawp at me but I’m not going to another room in my own home. I did once or twice when I first started but now I simply dgaf anymore.

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I’d do whatever I felt comfortable with. If I wanted to do it in another room, I’d set that room up beforehand to be nursing friendly (comfy glider, muslins) and then write a sign that says “quiet room, mama and baby only”

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I think of it as it’s my home and my safe place so why should I make changes in my home to fit anyone else.

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Get out of my home if it makes you uncomfortable…….or stay!

If I’m at your home and it make you feel uncomfortable, I’ll won’t come back over until my child is 100% done breastfeeding because what we won’t do is be pushed into a different space/room because you can’t redirect your eyes elsewhere.

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Whatever you want! Personally, I go into another room if there’s a male over. If it’s all women I don’t care including my lesbian friends. Most of them have kids too and don’t take notice. We’ll just keep on talking.
TBH I think my husband is more concerned with it than I am.
But when out in public my baby rips off the cover now. He didn’t used to when he was younger so I’d use a cover but now he won’t nurse unless we are on a plane and he’ll just rip the thing off so I try to cover as much of my boob as I can with my hand.
So it changes with you and your baby’s needs and I think that’s normal.

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I did cover up or move to a different room at the start. But we're 7 months in now and pretty straightforward. I'll just feed him wherever now. Was doing my monthly big shop the other day with him on my boob. If he's hungry he's hungry 🤷‍♀️

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