Guys I’m emotional 😢 I don’t want my babies to know the horrors and realities of this cruel world

I want them to stay safe and know they’re loved. I think this is the hardest part of motherhood for me. That eventually one day, we can’t protect them like we want 😭 sorry if I just ruined the vibe

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its part of the human experience, theres no peace without war.
we can do our best but some day they will be left to navigate life on their own & thats ok.

i hear you its really hard but the positive is that there are more good people than bad.

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I feel this!!! I’m terrified of school!!! As someone that was bullied terribly, for NO REASON at all other than my skin tone I’m scared she’ll experience the same and she’s so beautiful!!! But ya know the world. Too dark, too light, too ugly, heck too pretty!

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Our parents lived this heartbreak and our grandparents and our great grandparents & great great grandparents before them & now it’s our turn. I just hope that we left the world in a better place for them. U can’t protect ur child forever bt u can just rely on what u taught them for survival to endure this cruel world so they can eventuallly find the beauty in all this chaos. Bt this is a fear for all parents before, now, and after us. This is just the nature of the game X. Hopefully we all teach future generations to do good so the world doesn’t have to be continue to be cruel :)

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Seeing the U.S. go spiraling down hill now makes it even worse. I question my ethics/right to bringing a child into this terrible place. What I do know is that I want to keep my child protected from really awful knowledge for longer than I was because my parents’ fear of everything and constant obsession of telling me all the bad things that happen or could happen, have traumatized me. It’s finding the balance between keeping them safe, while not traumatizing them with unnecessary fear. It’s a very tough balancing act.

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I view raising children as a revolutionary action.

“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not”

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I know how you feel my oldest is 16 and doing his own thing now I just hope I’ve taught him well actually scrap that I know I’ve taught him well. But the one thing I hate about motherhood is the constant worry it never goes away! 😭

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Omg I think about this all the time. I see her pure joy and can’t help but feel sad too. Because I know one day she will face great pain.

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My sister (youngest, 24) has two kids, 4 & 1, and i (oldest, 30) just have my one who’s 6mo old right now, so i ask her for advice or call her to vent about things sometimes. Well im tired of her turning around and telling my other family members that I’m “losing my sh*t.” Literally have not lost my sh*t nor have i ever freaked out to her about my baby, i just call her to talk and tell her what stage my baby is in or talk through how im feeling, but she chooses to tell people that im like a complete nutcase or something which worries me that my family is going to start being judgmental about me as a mother or looking at me funny like I’m some fragile ticking time bomb.

What would you do in this situation? I’m already pretty much decided that I’ll stop telling her anything about my struggles, but I’m almost at the point where i feel like it should be confronted because she, of all people, should understand what I’m going through.

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Not drinking

I’m going crazy. Baby born at 2.26kg. Slow to put on weight. This last week hasn’t put on any. Been trying to feed him at night and he’s not interested at all. Fast asleep. During day he will have 5 minute gulps and that’s it. He don’t cry for milk. I’ve got to keep offering to him. I try to offer it every hour but I don’t know what I’m doing. HV said nutrition comes after 5 minutes so I should pump first and then give him. I find it so hard. I tried to pump one boob nothing came. The other abit came. Tried giving him express he’s not interested in that too. Sometimes he will go for a longer a feed but not long at all. He’s 4 months and is currently 5.46kg. I have no family or friend support here and wish I had a cook, cleaner and nanny to help with everything so I can concentrate on the little one. I don’t know what’s wrong with him but I’m loosing it. It doesn’t help that my also stressed generally about my relationship and life circumstances. Any advice that will work. Any comfort you can give. I’m fed up. Is this regression - not feeding. He’s fast fast asleep. I’ve been trying to push the nipple in but that mouth is closed shut. I took some clothes off. Changed his nappy but he’s still asleep. Please help

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Sleeping bag

8 week old in sleeping bag for first time as big enough! Do you feed your child in the night whilst in the sleeping bag or taken them out, feed then transfer back to sleeping bag before putting down?

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i just want someone to talk to😔😔😔😔

when things get hard i have nothing not any support from my partner im convinced he doesn’t even love me anymore but thats another story
I have a 3 yo and a 2yo that are in bed sleeping only just now. I have a 1 yo that’s been sleeping from 8 o’clock to 10 o’clock. I just gave her her milk and she would’ve gone back to sleep if it wasn’t that
I lost her dummy earlier in the day when I went out
so now she won’t go back to sleep and she won’t accept any of the other dummy’s i have!😔😔and it’s 10 o’clock and I’m gonna be up until 3 o’clock with her and when she does want to go to sleep i won’t have any dummy to give her she will accept and she won’t sleep without it i just wanna cry 😔i have nobody to talk to and i feel so alone i get no support from anybody i’m so tired and i don’t feel well to top it off😔

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Leaky nappy help

What nappies are you using to stop leaks?? We use pampers ultra dry size 5, and for the past few nights he has lashed through and we’ve had to completely change him during the night. Last night he leashed through twice!! He sleeps on his front and stays leaks through at the top of his leg where the tabs connect. Didn’t know whether to size up, he has a bit of a belly on him but he’s smack in middle of weight guidance so shouldn’t need too

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