Sharing waking in the night with partner

But you also work all day, plus you do the night shift. All you get out of it is an extra hour or two in bed. But when you've been awake most of the night, you need every bit of sleep you can get.
It's not fair if you then take the morning shift too. You work hard and need sleep too, just as much as him.

I do feel this but can see how I have more opportunities to take it slow if I'm exhausted/squeeze in a nap if I'm lucky. How do you split it with your partner?

It's split 90/10 with my partner. I do the night-shift, which is hard as she wakes up every 2 hours and she now wakes up earlier and earlier in the morning. I also don't get to nap during the day and my lo is extremely demanding and very cranky atm which I hope is a phase.
I have her all day on my own, then when he comes home we make sure he can relax and take it easy. Which I kind of wish I could do too. He says going to work is a break from being a parent, but I don't get one lol.

I think it should be shared 50/50, it's their child too, so the workload needs to be shared. Even if mum breastfeeds, dad can still change nappies etc.

I do it all, find it easier that way to be honest, when I was really struggling with the zero sleep he did step in and help with a few early shifts but was more trouble than it was worth to be honest for various reason EBF being one of them.

On a good night I will do all night wakings. On a tough night or through regressions my OH will do a few. A tough night is usually waking every 2 hours from 11, so for example: I’ll do 11 pm and 3am; and my OH will do 1am and 5am. This way we both get a 4 hour stretch.

I do it all and only get a Friday night off

Does your partner stay up late? I ask as maybe dad could hold baby for a few hours then? That's how we balance it, baby is ebf so I do all the night wakings but when babys sleep is particularly broken then my husband holds him in the evening and I get a few hours sleep in. Baby typically sleeps when held and even if he wakes will often go back down if my husband walks around a bit with him. Once he is awake and needing a feed then he does his nappy and brings him to me. I usually get a decent block of sleep that way. He also handles any wake ups from our toddler and occasionally she sleeps worse than baby 🤣

An extra hour up before work is nothing though tbh you're working through the day too!

We split it in two shifts 11-2 and 2- onward which I do. Xx

We decided to do it this way when he was waking every half hour and there wasn’t point in switching easier to just do a certain time frame whatever the wake ups are. Last night he fed around 11 and then just gone 2 xx

I do it all 🥲 But baby is EBF in the night, so not sure what worth my partner has being up with me. During difficult phases in the past when she wouldn’t settle back to sleep though, id wake him to help or if I was desperate for some extra sleep id wake him to sort her nappy. Thankfully she doesn’t poop at night anymore so don’t change her nappy till morning and she only wakes 1-3x in the night so my partner isn’t much use for during the nights just now x

my partner does the waking nights with our little girl (granted she only wakes up once), but only started doing them around 10 weeks old. We have a great balance when it comes to it! I let him come home from work and do what he wants whilst i get her ready for bed, whether that be watching the football or playing games with his friends. In return - he does the waking nights! x