Change of Attraction Towards Hubby?

Has anyone felt like they are less attracted to their husbands during pregnancy? Or am I just being weird. Idk what it is I feel like I just am not that into him as of late. Could it be the hormones or is something wrong?
What about that whole birth control thing about women finding certain men attractive while they’re on BC, but then when they quit it, they realize that maybe they were not really their type after all..? Am I going crazy please somebody tell me I’m just overthinking or something

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In my first trimester I stopped being attracted to him for a few weeks. He had a very strong smell and I couldn’t stand being near him and didn’t want to have sex. But then randomly one day it all went away and I was horny as ever for him and have been since, now 34 weeks 🤷🏻‍♀️

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yes the smell. Everything smells weird to me I’ve even had to switch his deodorant and toothpaste

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Unless it’s causing an issue in your life, I wouldn’t dwell on it too much. Hormones affect all women differently. I have wanted to be physically touching my husband damn near this entire pregnancy (which obviously isn’t possible), but I’ve never been that needy before and don’t expect to be that needy post partum. I just hope he’s understanding when you need your space. It’ll take patience on both ends, but pregnancy is only temporary 😮‍💨this too shall pass!

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My first pregnancy. I didn’t really want to be touched by him at all my first trimester it definitely did something to our marriage but with right counsel and time, we’re back to normal and this pregnancy I’m all over him even tho he still pisses me off over breathing to hard😂😂

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.


I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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