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Any tips on how I can get my daughter to stay asleep after move away at bedtime? She will usually wake up half hour in, feed and then go back for at least another 2-3 hours. Her bedtime is late so I don’t mind, but I want to start spending more time at night relaxing with my husband, watching movies like we used to
I have tried leaving her with something that smells of me, waiting until she’s in a deep sleep. We have the white noise on always so noise is not an issue. She always reaches out to touch me as if to make sure I’m there. She falls asleep in my arm and I transfer her onto the mattress which she’s getting on better with. Tips would be greatly appreciated!

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I found laying down next to my LO and feeding him laying down. Once he was asleep I would wait 30 minutes with him as he usually stirs a bit and then after that I’d slowly move away. To begin with he would only last 10-20 mins before he would stir again and I’d have to go back up but the more I did it the longer he would go without me there. He can now go up to 2 hours without me there but it took a couple of weeks before he was able to!

I’m currently in the process of teaching my girl to fall asleep by herself on the bed because I was told that when she is stirring everything is different because I’ve now put her down and that puts them on edge. If they fall asleep themselves then they are less likely to wake because the only change is that you aren’t there which they shouldn’t really notice.
I don’t know how true it is but it kind of makes so I’m trying it!
The first 2 nights she did great, last night not so much 😅

Your baby is still so young and that sounds so normal for the age. It'll take time, and she'll get there eventually by herself. Unfortunately I think it's a case of putting up with an early bedtime for a few more months and knowing that it's not going to be like this forever! It feels like the longest time when you're in it but honestly you blink and it'll soon be over
I know that's probably not what you want to hear!

thank you, this is what I’ve been doing the past two nights and she lasts about 10 minutes before she starts flailing. I’ll keep trying 🙏🏼

thank you for the tip, i do feel like she would do better if she wasn’t in the crease of my arm all the time. Every nap is still pretty much a contact nap, so i know it’ll take a while with some ok and not so ok days!

ahhh I know❤️ thank you for saying that I’m constantly battling with myself and then just want to embrace it while it lasts

for us it is a fine balance of her being sleepy but not being asleep. I stay right next to her currently and keep a hand on and the idea is that I will gradually move further away 🙈 we are still doing full contact naps too. She is 7 months old now and I love the time with her but I do need some time to myself so I’m not putting any pressure on it but sticking with it and taking it at her pace. I think she is coming down with something now too so might have to wait until she is feeling better.

it’s nice to not feel alone in this. I know it’s not a huge deal but when I just need a moment to myself it really can feel frustrating

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