Bestfriends? IDK

My boy is just over 3 months & my bestfriends of YEARS still haven’t met him. They say they can’t wait but have made no effort to meet him & don’t exactly ask how we/him. Am i being weird because it’s annoyed/upset me that they’ve made no effort? I’m at a stage where i just cannot be arsed with people anymore. CYA

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Maybe they are trying to give you space in the newborn bubble, 3 months does seem a little long but have you asked them to see you? Possibly just waiting for you to arrange it so they know you’re ready as it can be overwhelming :)

maybe. Our other friend has a baby and they’ve all made an effort with her/eachother. I’ve made it clear they’re welcome round whenever, i don’t drive and am still recovering so it’s difficult to me to get to them. maybe i’m overthinking i duno x

Do they live nearby? One of my best friends lives the other end of the country & hasn’t met my 13 month yet which I have no issue with, but if she lived locally I’d just pop round hers with baby.

That’s completely understandable! They live around a 35/45 min drive away, i however don’t drive and would have to get a train there with a baby whilst i’m recovering is not doable whereas they all drive x

Rude!! My best friends were similar (neither have or want kids) & it’s so upsetting isn’t it. You could try asking them over & if it doesn’t happen at least you’ll know how they feel. I’m so sorry girl! I’m also at the cba stage 🙃

oh ur joking i’m so sorry! I’m in two minds cos part of me is like do i ask but then another part is like i’m not essentially begging or asking you countless times to meet my child, if you wanted too that much you would you know what i mean?😂i don’t blame you! You get to the point where you’re like NOPE xx

I get it!! Probably now I’d think the same tbh, sod them 🤣 you do whatever makes you happy! X

100%!! and you girly x

People need to realize that things are gonna be different and if they really cared they would make an effort

Have you invited them over? It’s hard for people to know the protocol. You hear some people annoyed that people want to come over too soon and some annoyed that people aren’t keen enough. And anyone who doesn’t have kids may not even realize how not ok you might be and that they should check in

100%

i have! Whether the fact i live a 45 min drive isn’t good for them i’m unsure. They know i’m struggling to some extent as we have a group chat but they don’t ask how i am, i think i’m just going to leave it, if they come they come if they don’t they don’t. Their loss

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

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I hope you enjoying the 5month babies 🫠 the cuteness outweighs everything over here.
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