Post Partum Rage & Anxiety

I have post partum rage and I desperately need help. I've tried therapist but the only advice I'm given is i need someone to help give me a break. I don't have ANYONE. I'm completely alone. I have 3 kids and I never ever get a break. I don't have money for a sitter. Can anyone please give me any advice that doesn't include "taking a break"? I don't have that luxury. I'm losing my mind and it's breaking me. I can see my kids pulling away from me. Please someone help.

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I'm not sure how much this will help but I may have some for you or mainly just encouragement. So first I wanna let you know what your feeling is valid. Being a mother is hard and with 3 kids it's alot. Espically if your on your own. The important part is that you and the children are safe and healthy and that you love and support them. That your trying everyday for yourself and them. Don't forget how strong you are and brave for pushing through everyday. For smiling even if it's only a little. Your not giving up that's what matters. Growing up was really ruff for me. My home life was not healthy and I didn't have any help. I was the angry one and the one that needs pills because of how I acted. Everyday I told myself , one day at a time. Once I can get past one day ima focus on the next 2 days. Ima focus one day or a few untill i can picture how I will get through the next week and so on. Even if I didn't believe it that day I always said it. It worked.

You have to find the little things that make you happy. It could be food,drinks, music, coloring, word searchers or puzzles. Wine or a mixed drinks and weed if you smoke is also a good way to be able to care but not care. I hope you can find what works for you. If you ever want to talk feel free to msg me even if you need to vent or just some encouragement.

also don't feel ashamed or embarrassed or anything like that to take antidepressants. It's just a little extra boost of positives. Start at a small dosage and see if that works if that is something you would be open to

@krystal thank you so much. I can't sleep and I'm exhausted. It was just a really bad day and I deeply regret the way I reacted or spoke to my 2 toddlers multiple times. There was awhile that I thought the post partum was getting better but then yesterday and today happened. This feels impossible. I'm breastfeeding so I'm unable to take any medication yet. But I will take it one day at a time and try to find time for a small hobby. That's a good idea. Thank you so much!

@Rue oh thank you thank you!!

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