Loneliness

How do you deal with the loneliness that comes with having no village/friends?

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I cry alot

Girl I cried so much but after a while I started to enjoy myself and do hobbies !! But text me it you need someone to be friends with :)) I have none🥲

me too girl 😭

bet girl because my kids are basically my only friends lol

@Del what Ashley said tho, do anything to break the day up do crafts hobbies, alks anything you can do! Feel free to bit me up also!! 🥰

I appreciate that ❤️❤️

It’s hard. I have a village my family. But not having friends in your corner is so hard. It makes me feel guilty and lonely

exactly 😭 I have my sister and grandma but it hurts so much not having friends to spend time with.

I felt this too, a lot of people told me they were there for me and then never talked to me again after I had my baby shower 😢 I just don't understand it. I've always had a hard time making friends too and now that I'm an adult I really don't know how to go about it. Even with this app I had reached out to so many women. Only ever met one and she was just very busy which I understand completely but it still sucks to not be able to make connections

Yes, I totally understood you there.
I have family, which I'm very grateful for, but sometimes I would love a girlfriend to just talk to vent bitch about life too.
So definitely not alone, but I am such a homebody that maybe I've put myself in this corner in a way I go for walks around our neighbourhood and sometimes have a chat with our neighbours but outside my sons therapists (physio speech and Ot)and family and my sons teachers which seem a lot but really that's their job to talk to me besides family so yeah gets lonely and sometimes I love that but sometimes would love that but I feel I'm too far gone I'm late 30s with an 16 year old so feel like middle age and don't know where to turn.
So with you there.

Same ❤️

I didn't really have a village or family in my corner but to be honest they were toxic and always tried to tear my little family apart especially my babies I have been better off since but would like to have a friend for my babies as well as myself

it's definitely nice being able to talk to other adults sometimes but I understand that it's not the same as having a real friend. And I'm the same I always choose to stay home but now I don't know what to do

I appreciate that so much❤️

I am with you there because a lot of my family is toxic too and they just don't understand. My son keeps saying he wants friends and I'm trying so hard to figure it out for him, but I know he will also make friends when he starts school

I just am on tik tok all the time or fb reels because I don’t have any friends or family to talk to

@Del oh yes he will my girls did my youngest is 2 so she gets lonely at times also jelly when their friends come to play they say she's to small sometimes

poor little baby❤️ I know it hurts seeing them like that

I got to lullababies classes on Fridays and meet up with mums from there during the week/weekend 😊

I would love to do something like that but I need to learn how to drive 🥲🤣

❤️ one day at a time indeed!! I know it gets better just have to keep trying

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Family culture difference on money

Sorry this is long, I hope some of you get to the end and give advice!!!

So I’m a very thrifty person, things are tight at the moment, the cost of living crisis and my house is heated by oil so things are extortionate. We aren’t on the bread line but we aren’t flush, hubby might be made redundant so there is some financial pressure.

Sometimes I buy my sons something nicer, on the justification that I can sell it on after (♥️ vinted ♥️). I have also been planning on pretty much breaking even most of the baby things I bought from face book market place, side by crib, baby changing unit, etc.

Hubby and I have different money cultures with our families (he’s Indian, I’m British). I’m my family we don’t mix money, we would help each other out if someone was in trouble and will get each other gifts on special occasions. With hubby’s family money is much more fluid, they will give each other things worth thousands of £ just because.

Hubby’s brother bought him a new laptop and a new Google phone, he’s been very generous to hubby. Hubby hasn’t given the same back because brother is much richer.

Hubby and I mostly share finances. If it’s relevant I’m the higher earner.

Now to the point! My babies are so cute they’ve given hubby’s brother (currently single) baby rabies. He’s asked for our baby stuff when we’re done with it. He’s been so generous to hubby I feel really stingy saying no. But I’d never have bought some of the stuff if I wasn’t going to get a return on it - the thought makes me a bit anxious. If we gave all our baby stuff given the second hand value it still wouldn’t equal what the brother had given hubby.

I thought maybe I could give him some stuff but sell some stuff, but hubby said then his brother will just have to go out and buy that stuff, so I should name my price and ask his brother for the money. That makes me feel very uncomfortable, given how generous the brother has been to hubby.

So what do I do ladies? Give it all and suck it up? Give part of it and sell parts on Vinted/FB, or ask hubbys brother for money for it and be uncomfortable? Or do you see another solution?

No one is being entitled or rude here, just a culture difference I need to navigate.

My relationship is failing I feel so alone.. I need a girlfriend to talk to :(

I'm a sahm and I feel so stuck... anyone going through the same thing? I could really use someone to relate to and talk through this with. Feeling so vulnerable but if I don't I won't be able to pull myself out of this

Going back to work!

Already thinking about this! Told my boss I was pregnant this week at 10 weeks, he was so happy for me. He’s recently became a first time Dad and was showing me pictures of his baby. I told him my plans about going back after 6 months and he looked at me like I was mad, am I!? I absolutely love my job and cannot imagine giving it up, I manage a team and am petrified my position won’t be there if I had a year off. My husband gets 6 months full pay so the plan would be for him to have the last 6 months off and I also made it clear to my boss that I would like to go part time. That way we can hopefully parent together 4/7 days rather than just the weekend! I am such an overthinking! 🤣 but this is what I’m struggling with the most, I’ve worked full time since I was 17 (12 years ago) and the max time I’ve had off in one go is 2 weeks when I got married. I’m sooo excited to be a Mum and we decided now was the right time, which it 100% is! But I feel so on edge about not working! I’m sure once I’m on maternity leave I won’t even think about work! Has anyone else felt the same?

What are we giving our soon-to-be 3yo for their birthdays?

We have the magnetiles, we have the kinetic sand and play doh, we have the play kitchen…

Literally, is there anything left in the world to buy this spoilt kid? 😅

Go to dinner ideas

Looking for recipes you use in your family that are not the traditional lasagna, shepards pie, ect

Is it just me?

I’m 35. I have a 21 month old and i’m 5 months pregnant. I have no friends. Everyone has either drifted away or ghosted me. I don’t know what i’ve done but i’m so lonely now. My best friend of 20 years has ghosted me and i’m heartbroken. I’ve tried to reach out to other friends but never get anywhere. I don’t know how to make new friends. I honestly just feel so alone.