Low libido!! Crying for HELP

I’ve always had low libido never thought much about it until the past year. It’s affecting my marriage my husband is now really cold distance because he says am selfish and never want to be intimate with him. I feel awful I don’t want to be intimate for the sake of just pleasing him. I want to desire it also. I love him and still find him attractive. I can’t sleep thinking he’s doing things behind my back.

I keep thinking there’s an underlying issue it’s not normal for someone not to ever desire sex. I feel nothing so hard to get horney. Help I don’t know what to do.
If I see my gp would they refer me to someone??

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I'm sorry to hear this. It's a tough situation. Is this a new situation or have you always been like this?

Maybe you can see your GP, your OBGYN, and a therapist?

I’ve always been like this. I feel awful my husband has had to put up with this for years. And he’s fed up now which I don’t blame him.
I don’t know who to go to what to do. It’s affecting me mentally.
I have an appointment with my gp tomorrow hoping they can help

Good luck cuz I’ve been the same my entire life. After having a baby I just don’t have it in me to fake it and I just don’t want to

I'm exactly the same. My husband and I are in counselling together. I just really struggle with it. I love him and find him attractive, but just don't want to half ad much as her does. Hope you find help

how is counselling? Has it helped? Have you not gone to see obyn to find what the problem is?

It is helping. I'm putting more effort into our relationship and my husband is realising it's not all about sex. There's nothing wrong with me, just low sex drive mixed with antidepressants and dealing with being a first time mum.

Your husband should be supporting you over this, not calling you selfish. Gentle hugs. I’d speak to a GP, they can refer you for support.

Some people just generally have lower sex drives than others, but it’s worth speaking to the Gp to see if there is a different reason why.

I'm currently pregnant and taking anti depressants and I've lost every little inch of my sex drive, it used to be high and now I don't desire anything I hate being called sexy or fit by my partner makes me feel grim and I don't understand why.
My partner will go into a big mood or start an argument whenever I deny sex as you said that you won't just have sex for the sake of him I won't have it for the sake of him I want to feel in the mood too. Plus it hurts these days, he's always saying do I even love him this that and the other and I respond with sex doesn't equal love and it doesn't... I don't know what you could do I'm just putting my own experience out there as well I guess, men don't seem to understand and think it's a them issue and make it this huge problem, there's definitely ways around it but I guess it's finding the ways to become horny and what not... maybe try libido pills? I think Ann summers sell them for women x

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Is this normal

Let’s say you’re at a softplay with your 2 year old, and some friends & their toddlers.
You buy your 2 year old a kids meal - chicken nuggets, beans, and chips. They’re very happy with it and have almost eaten it all.
They’re sat at the table, fork in hand, consistently eating, and have one chicken nugget left.
Your adult friend comes over from behind you, picks up the last chicken nugget, and eats it.
There was no indication that your child wasn’t going to eat it, and they didn’t ask. They just took it with no warning and ate it right in front of you and your toddler.
How you reacting?

Are these men ok?

I get so sad seeing all the posts on here daily about women dealing with partners who are treating them horribly. I know it seems over represented because those of us with great partners don’t need to write posts asking for help, but I really hope most of us don’t have these kinds of men in our lives!

I tell my husband about these posts I see sometimes and he’s even shocked by some of the things these guys say/do.

Nobody’s perfect, and every relationship takes work. And becoming parents is a stress test unlike any other for sure, but seeing how many women get stuck in these relationships with men who aren’t interested in being better is so so sad😞

But is/was your partner helpful, loving, and supportive during your pregnancy/PP/etc? Was he a wonderful person but changed for the worst after becoming a parent? Has he put effort into becoming the partner you need him to be, even if he struggles?

Car issues

Idk if I’m in the wrong. I have a full time job. My husband takes care of the kids while I worked. Today was the day I was supposed to get us a car. But I couldn’t cause of the down payment. So now he’s texting me saying I’m wasting his day to be alone at Walmart so he can spend his tax return. I really want to say go ahead. Leave. Leave the kids and me alone. While you go out and spend money. While your at go ahead and buy urself your drugs and a bitch to go fuck.

Lucky I’m even thinking about him about the car situation if not I would’ve been buying me and the kids a car small enough for us!

Nursery lunches?

My daughter is nearly 10 months old and starting nursery next month. I want to send my daughter in with lunches so I know shes eating healthy meals but I'm honestly so lost as to what to put in her little bento lunch box that will keep till lunch time and doesnt need reheating. Ive been doing loads of baby led weaning at home, but I tend to make it fresh or pull stuff from the freezer I've previously made and defrost and reheat.
Could you show me some of the lunches you've been giving your baby? Or have you been been letting the nursery deal with the food?

THIS DUMB 🍑 MF

LET ME BREAK IT DOWN 🤣🤣

THIS MAN DRIVES AN ELECTRIC CAR WHERE HE CAN PLUG HIMSELF IN (NORMALLY DOES TO DO DOORDASH ETC)
AND IT HAD A SPOT TO WIRELESSLY CHARGE
SOME HOW WITH 4 HOURS OF WORKING HE DIDN'T EVEN MAKE 20 BUCKS TO WASH CLOTHS ANOTHER RED FLAG

TWO NIGHTS AGO
HE CLAIMS TO GO OUT TO WORK. HANGS UP ON ME MID CONVERSATION 👀👀

4 HOURS PAST I'M GETTING SLEEPY STILL HAVEN'T HEARD FROM HIM
IT'S LIKE 1:30AM I TEXT HIM NIGHT I'M MAD CONFUSED ALMOST AN HOUR LATER I ANT HEARD FROM HIM SO I CHECK MY TEXT.
THE SHIT SAYS "PHONE OFFLINE" AND SHOWS THE TIME FRAME MY TEXT DIDN'T SEND
SO I START CALLING TO CONFIRM CAUSE I THOUGHT SOMETHING HAPPENED TO HIM. HE'S BEEN IN 2 CAR ACCIDENTS 👀 NEITHER HIS FAULT

SO I GET FRANTIC MY GUY

3:14 ROLLS AROUND I CALL AGAIN SURPRISE HE PICKS UP.
CLAIMS HIS PHONE DIED WHILE HE'S HANGING OUT AND HAVING A VERY "GOOD" CONVERSATION. HE WON'T TELL ME WHERE HE'S AT OR WHO WITH. MIND YOU THIS MAN CHEATED ON ME WHILE I WAS 33 WEEKS PREGNANT.

SO AT THIS POINT I'M PISSED OFF AND I TELL HIM I'M HANGING UP CAUSE I LOOK STUPID BEING WORRIED.

HE TURNS AROUND WHILE NOT BEING AROUND THIS CHICK AND FINALLY TELLS ME ALL THE DETAILS.

BTW YES WE MIGHT BE POLY BUT HE'S POSTED HIMSELF AS SOLO POLY WHILE LIVING WITH ME!! HE THINKS I'M. STUPID WITH ALSO THIS SNEAKY SHIT.

IF I WAS TO DO WHAT HE'S DOING HE'D LOOSE IT.
BUT I'M ABOUT TO GO OUTSIDE!! CAUSE YOU PLAYING IN MY FACE

Activities with baby

I’m so tired of not finding enough things to do with my 10 month old baby boy. What do you guys do to keep them engaged. I’m not giving him any screen time actually he’s not interested either in watching tv.
Any ideas and tips what to do with them I’m so tired 😣