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Ummmm…. She is only 17 months old lol she seems to be doing great! I think you can give her a pass for ‘please and thank you’ for now :)

thank you😭 i thought the same thing.. but my parents made it seem like im doing a horrible job because she doesn’t say those two things much

My kid says thank you. I have absolutely no idea where he picked it up and I've never asked him to say please. At 17 months, I'm just grateful he's learning words I also know that he has no idea what please and thank you actually mean. I don't plan to start teaching him to say them until he can understand why and what they mean.

My baby isn’t saying many words yet, maybe like 5 or 6 total. It’s so easy for us to feel like we arnt doing enough when other people tell us how our baby should be doing. But they will learn in time and we can just do our best :) our babies are wonderful just the way they are and we should just enjoy them :)

Honestly, I was worried as well, but my daughter can say a few words so I went and got her assessed and they said she’s pretty normal for her age and that everything’s OK. Let them learn and exploreeeeeee 🫂 ♥️

My 3 year old niece is just now saying please and thank you consistently but still has to be prompted.

If you want advice to try and get ur LO to implement it more just do a LOT of please and thank you modeling. I dont prompt my son to say it so it comes naturally to him and he’s just starting to get the hang of thank you. He said it once unprompted today when i gave him a snack and copied my please before bed time lol. Try not to force it because she might not do it out of independence. Shes 17 months old and toddlers are very independent at this stage so manners shouldnt be such a big thing. Modeling it is the best learning tool and being forced to do something just because of societal pressure/norms isnt something anyone likes. Toddlers learn best by example and not by force because theyre basically mini baby teens and want to learn the world on their terms😭

My 18 month old only says mama dada and bye …

Please and thank you are more complex words for them to say. At 17 months they maybe know 3-5 words. Most likely mama dada bye and then maybe more or ball something like that.

I think she’s doing great for her age. My son is about the same age and isn’t talking. We taught him please in sign language which is just rubbing your chest in a certain direction and it’s helped reduce some tantrums when he doesn’t get his way fast enough. I just started by taking his hand and rubbing his chest while saying please before I gave/did what he was asking for. He picked it up super fast and now does it all the time.

Tell your parents that she’s only been alive for 17 MONTHS. I think you can give her a pass…right now her brain is developing more important skills than that. You can model how to say it but if she gets scolded every time she should’ve said it I think it will only make it not want to say it

mine also randomly started saying thank you one day as well. The cutest thing! I’m thinking our family just says that to each other a lot and he picked it up.

Tell your parents they need to model the behavior more

You can totally model these things but it’s unrealistic to expect a 17 month old to consistently use those words. Many babies only have a few words total at 17 months!

You can also tell them you are working on more functional language before moving to other things (like help, eat, drink, up etc.)

wasn’t really saying that modeling was the real “issue”. More that grandparents that insist that a 17 month old say please and thank you probably don’t say it a lot themselves

I was just responding to the message generally not to your comment specifically.

you make a great point 😆

She is probably confused, she's only 17 months old, I wouldn't even try to get her to say that until she's closer to 2 if even that early

I’m sure a 17 month old doesn’t know what words mean like that. It’s take time for them to understand the concept and how to use it when they are talking. This age is basically starting from scratch on how to move their mouths and pronounce words. 2 and 3 years old say thank you and please . 17 month old is too young IMO

facts !! i agree. i’ll keep modeling it☺️ definitely not going to listen to my mom and withhold whatever item she wants until she says thank you 🥲