Messaging a prostitute

this is cheating and it’s disgusting
im really sorry he did this to you.
i think you have two options; leave and if he’s cheated on you once he may have already done so, or if not can definitely do this again
or the second option being to set boundaries and work through it together. he needs to stop ‘getting off his face’ if his loyalty goes out the window.
it’s honestly disgusting, your carrying his child and he does this to you..? and you already have a child together

That’s cheating in my opinion. You obviously went through his phone for a reason, you must of had a gut instinct something was going on as you don’t usually do that with people you trust. So that says a lot in itself too. A relationship without trust and with children involved it’s not healthy!

Who cares you went through his phone! I’ve not gone through my partners phone ever, because I trust he wouldn’t do something like that - so it does say a lot for you to go through in the first place. However, it doesn’t cancel out what he did. Confront him then leave his cheating arse!

also let me just add..
i caught my ex partner (bd) messaging several prostitutes. he didn’t believe it was properly cheating because it was only online??? so be prepared for that excuse please. also be prepared for the ‘ill change’ ‘im so sorry idk what i was thinking’ talk. they knew exactly what they were doing, drunk or not, he knew it would have hurt you deeply and potentially meant the end for both of you, and he was fine with that. take it from someone that did endure that disrespect, and chose to stay, they only get sneakier at hiding it, and they will ALWAYS cheat again.
again im so sorry your going through this, but how beautiful to find this out now and not years and years further down the line. allow yourself to heal and move on and find someone who genuinely loves you and wouldn’t dream of doing this to you. don’t let your children be the reason you stay, you’ll only become miserable and riddled in anxiety, please trust us all on this
if you need any support or advice

- if you need any support or advice please pm me 🥰

I don’t think the morality of you checking his phone is even a factor here!

You’re allowed to look through his phone. Leave him