Husband gives me the ick?

2 yrs pp and feel the exact same way. I’ll never recover from it because of how he treated me during pregnancy and postpartum and how he speaks to our son

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. Having a baby is a MASSIVE life change as well as a relationship dynamic shift. Are you comfortable with speaking with him about how you feel as well as being open to hearing his side of things with an open mind? If that feels safe to you, that may be a starting place.
I remember the first months with my newborn being the most trying and straining on my relationship. It often took days to talk through issues (often being interrupted by the baby's needs).
I hope it's not presumptuous to recommend this: Take some time to write down your thoughts and concerns and set aside some time away from the baby to address your concerns. If it matters to you it should matter to your partner. Always remember that the best resolutions are from couples who work theough issues using the "its not you vs me, its us vs the problem " approach.
Best of luck to you both, and don't be afraid to reach out to your safe people and even therapists/your doctor about this!

Is this your first?

After having our first kid, intimacy in our marriage was such a struggle. He was patient, we had a lot of conversations together and with a therapist and we worked through it. we were both surprised about how affected we were.

I hope he is patient and attentive to you. You guys will overcome this. It's a hard time in your lives, but it too is a phase that will pass.