How old is to old for little one to be sleeping in bed with you?

So for temporary little man might have to sleep in bed with my and fiance due to moving , and his currently 5 months old as of today

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I mean, my youngest is two years old next month and shows no sign of ending co-sleeping šŸ™ˆ

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imo, 2.5-3 years. I wouldn’t even call it ā€œtoo oldā€ just, time to start transitioning.

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I say when they can talk. Idk there’s something about leaving my baby that can’t even talk in another room that doesn’t sit right with me. Even with a baby monitor 😭

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@Fel 😭 I feel that but I don't want him attached to sleeping in bed with us , since that's a battle of it's own that I don't want idc if he stays in our room but in our bed is a different story i don't want him needing to sleep with us for years. If his sick or wanting to take a nap with me that's fine but for bed time he normally gets up in his bed

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@KayLee I don't know how esle to put it other then that but I don't want him always sleeping in bed with us then getting use to it

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My kid is 4 and still comes into our bed sometimes.

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Haha also we've got a sticker chart for our almost 5 year old reward him for staying in his room until 7am. He's doing great! I wouldn't mind him coming in if he didn't then wake his brother up. Snuggles with one each side of me is the best tbh 🄹 just not all the time as I get no space. How can such small people take up so much room!!

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Mine is 21 months and still comes into my bed regularly

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My daughter coslept until 2 then moved happily into her own room on a floor bed.

I get in with her if she's struggling

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We bedshared until at 18 months when our daughter told us she wanted to sleep in her own room. She has a full sized floor bed and either my husband and i end up in her room halfway through the night. She’s 26months now. It works well for us. I wouldn’t make choices out of fear of what ifs… babies and toddlers wanting to sleep in close proximity with parents it’s developmentally normal

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My son slept in our room in his crib until 8 months old, now he is 4yo still comes sometimes at night, our 3months old is in our room, sometimes end up in our bed.......5mo is so young you can't spoil him and it will be temporary anyway

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Way older by years šŸ˜‚

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@Anne I'm more worried he'll just want to stay in bed with us instead if his own , but his bed will be in our room till his probably 3

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i slept with my parents until i was like 8 so šŸ˜… not that i would want my daughter to do that but at 5 months old its totally fine and normal

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Teaching your child that they are safe and will be supported at nighttime is one of the best things you can do to turn them into lifelong independent sleepers

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No age is too old. I cosleep with my lo and she’s 1.5, she will always be allowed to sleep with me no matter the age.
You let a man that’s not related to you sleep in your bed because it’s comforting and you love them, so why not do the same for your blood?

Obviously she isn’t going to permanently sleep with me forever but for now it creates a secure attachment and bond and is comfortable and calming for her

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Ours is 4 in May and still comes to our bed during the night. It’s his safe space, he’s our youngest and last, I’m in no rush to force him back to his own room.

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Sleeping in your bed doesn't mean they'll never leave. Our daughter stayed with us until around two. When we felt we were ready to move we put her bed in a nice place in her room filled with teddy's and she was so excited to move from our bed in our room to her big girl bed in her own room, couldn't have been easier. Forming strong bonds and raising secure kids makes it easier not harder so wait until you are ready rather than what other people think.

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@Annie I'm just worried he wouldn't want to get is own bed , night mares sure he can climb in bed and sleep , sick or to take naps with me that's all fine but I don't want him being attached to sleeping with us

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So reassuring to see so many mamas still co-sleeping. My son is nearly seven months and I’m not showing any signs of being ready to separate. I think it’s going to be years before I’m ready to sleep apart 🤣🤣

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@Shukri I'm not ready for him to be in an other room but he rarely cosleeps inless I'm taking a nap

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I saw online a neurologist said they should sleep in bed with you till they’re 7

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Idk why we are like this with sleep. No ones like, ā€œdont hold your kids hand when they walk down the stairs otherwise they will never be able to walk down stairs without you.ā€ Sleep is a developmental skill and is constantly changing and evolving for kids. Fostering closeness and a safeness will help your child’s sleep develop in healthy ways.

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Never. It's biologically normal for young children to sleep with their parents. Some kids are ready for their own space younger than others. But it's not uncommon for some kids to not seek their own space until their preteens.

My oldest has always been my most high needs child. It took until he was 8 until he would fall asleep without me in thr room Then at 9 he started asking for his own room but only because he wanted time/space to himself.

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Depends on what you guys want. Does he go to sleep when he’s with you guys? Like is it actual restful sleep or is he up lots. If he wakes a lot then I’d consider moving him. If you guys have him there for your sleep survival, then I would continue cosleeping. I’ve only coslept with my lo during regressions and teething when it was necessary for us to get more sleep at night

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Mine is 2 and still sleeps in bed with us.

I was about 5 maybe 6 when I had to sleep in my own room. I still snuck into my mom's room or my older sisters until I was like maybe 8🤣

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Mine won’t have a choice as we live in a one bed flat currently with no possibility of moving haha. At least for the first year or two we’ll be cosleeping and then if we can, looking to get a two bed somewhere.

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