Long and frequent feeds

My 4 week old spends about 30-45 mins per breast during each feed. And feeds around every 1-1.5 hours. The feeds have been longer and more frequent in the past but this seems to be his standard pattern

It seems like most people are feeding ever 2-3 hours and it can last between 10-40 mins total feed time. At times I have him on both breasts for an hour and half total, which is exhausting when an hour later he might wake up to feed again!

He does fall asleep on the breast 95% of the time for his naps and nighttime sleep. When feeding during the day he will often shut his eyes and be sleepy but is still actively sucking and swallowing. I try to wake him up by disturbing him, touching his hands and feet, changing his position etc. he usually wakes up for his nappy feed in between breasts

Is he comfort feeding? Is this non nutritional feeding? I'm finding I am constantly feeding him, I have barely any time to myself as he's a contact napper too.

For context today I've been holding and feeding him for about 11 hours straight. He had a 3 hour nap but wouldn't be put down. When I say I can't do anything, I mean it. Even going to the bathroom means I have to put him down and let him cry while I go. My partner is usually around to hold him too but is busy today so I've just been attached all day

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I could have written this myself, my baby is 3 weeks old today. I wish I had the answers but I’m wondering myself. Very overstimulated

it's so hard isn't it!! Part of me wants to start combination feeding just so I can have a break but I really want to push through. Just hoping it gets better with time. Does your little one like to be held all the time too, even when not feeding? I'm finding that really tricky atm as even if he's not hungry, I'm always down arm as I'm holding him so can't get anything done

It really is hard at times, I have a toddler so feel added guilt not being present with her. As mums we’re too hard on ourselves. I added in a bottle or two over the last couple of days but found myself not doing it because I feel guilty for doing so. But I know and the advice I would give is you need to do what it right for you too.
Everyday is different but today he definitely hasn’t want to be put down

My little one is 8 months but this takes me back to her early weeks, she was exactly the same! She still feeds to sleep at night now and any contact naps at home. Have you tried a good wrap/sling? I found this and absolutely game changer when she was little and would nap for 2-3 hours in it and I could get some bits done around the house while still providing close comfort!

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