Curious to see what others think

If you take in a parcel for your neighbour are you:
A - waiting for them to come and get it as you've done them a favour and you're unsure if/when they're in
B - taking it round there a few hours later again unsure if they're in and keep doing so until someone eventually answers.
I normally do A, as it goes the other way too if one of my neighbours have my parcel I just go and grab it at my earliest opportunity, theyve done me a favour why should they go out of their way? I always assumed this was the case but apparently I'm wrongšŸ˜‚

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I don’t always track my things and if it isn’t outside my door, then I assume it never came or somebody stole it. If anything I’d leave a note on my neighbors door that I had it, so then they can come get it when they’re home & hopefully I’ll be there.

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If I get my neighbors package I just set it on their porch but I live next to a bunch of retired ppl so they tend to be home .

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@Mariam via tracking, usually states where they've left it (with neighbour at no ?, porch ect

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Over here, they aren’t permitted to leave it with a neighbor. So if a neighbor had it, then that means they grabbed it themselves. The delivery people can’t just leave it with them. They’ve gotta leave it on the porch or come back another day

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don’t know how it is in the US, but in the UK anytime a courier leaves your package elsewhere, they drop a note through your door explaining where your parcel is.

I always do A, and then if one day has passed, it’s B and I’ll try and catch them on their way out in the morning/when they get back from work in the evening.

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We don’t do that in the US.

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I do B, it’s not mine I want it out my house as soon as possible not taking up spacešŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ also refusing to pop next door to drop off a parcel isn’t very neighbourly is it šŸ˜‚ anyway I take it round when I see them or that there car is there, it’s only happened once at our current address tho and once the other way around too where our parcel went to them and they just did the same, gave it to us when they saw us passing xx

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i voted it depends. i take it in and usually it’s when they’re at work, and they either come and get it when they get it (presumably a note was left from the courier to say it was left next door) but if i notice they’re home but haven’t come, i’ll go and take it as i assume they aren’t aware or are busy :) x

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I know my neighbors so I would go get my package. I did get my further up the street neighbors package to my house accidentally (it had my house number on it but her name) I kept it, didn’t open it and she left a note saying it was hers. I took it to her door when I saw it.

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we don’t usually have porches here lol, our houses are teeny tiny compared to most US homes 🤣

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That’s not a thing in Canada. They just leave it on the porch or in some cases they’ll leave a door sticker telling you to pick it up at the post office (the sender will specify this if it’s a valuable item).

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I got groceries delivered to my door and they were my neighbors. I just left them at her door, knocked, and walked away

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I do A but after all while day I’d take it to them

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I would just set it on their porch

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My neighbors actually call me to collect their packages if they aren't home so they just stop by when they get back.

If I didn't get a call but took the package to keep it safe, I would call them and let them know I have it so they can pick it up when they get in or B and just keep trying.

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It’s never gone to a neighbours unless the actual address on the parcel was wrong in the first place. When I moved house I forgot to put in my new address so when it said ā€œdeliveredā€ I drove back to my old address to grab it. There is no situation here where they’ll deliver to a neighbour

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D had no choice someone flung my neighbours parcel into my yard, nearly tripped up on it and it could've broke my window

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I wait a day or two or go to theirs at the end of the day when I see they are home. There is no big deal on who should be the one doing what.

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I have walked over to a neighbors and delivered a package that was wrongfully delivered at mine. If they're not home I'd just leave it on their doorstep unless it needs fridgerating. Then I'd leave a note stating that it's at my place and to come grab it.

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I go round once later that night if they havnt came for it and i do look out for them coming back but if they arnt in they can come and get it

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I'll go and fetch a parcel as soon as I'm home from neighbour, but if I've taken a parcel in for a neighbour I'll drop it round to them if I see they're home. So i guess both? šŸ¤·ā€ā™€ļø

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B as round my area they don't leave notes to say they have been and after doing a ove had parcels for days

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As the neighbour, I'd wait for you to bring it over because I find drivers never leave a card so I have no clue who they left my parcel with, and don't want to randomly knock. If I've taken a parcel in, I'll just look out for them or if there's a car on the drive, will knock because someone is likely in

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I wait until they come ask for it.

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Depends which neighbour šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚šŸ˜‚ my immediate next door neighbour I can see when they come home so if I’m paying attention I’ll deliver it if it’s convenient for me.

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