Contact naps - mum vs dad

Just want to sense check that I’m not alone here! My baby will only fall asleep on me after he’s been breastfed, whereas baby will fall asleep on dad whatever! I feel mum guilt as I constantly put him on the boob if he’s crying and I want him to settle/sleep. Anyone else finding this to be the case for them too?

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Omg I'm so glad you posted this because this is happening for me. He cries and cries until he gets milk from me whereas he is quite calm for my husband and will just drift off to sleep.

It makes me feel like I'm doing something wrong because if I take him from my husband whilst he's asleep, he'll often wake up and cry for milk. I think it must be that he can smell it but it does make me question why I can't settle him

Also so so glad you posted this! I’m having the same experience and questioning whether when he settles with dad he is missing out on milk he needs or whether it’s ok that he is sleeping instead of feeding 🤯

So glad to hear this isn’t just a me thing and must be quite normal!! We got this mamas 🫶🏼

Yeh I struggle sometimes to settle her if she's remotely hungry as she gets wound of by the milk smell, while she's calm for daddy! Trying not to take it personally 😂❤️

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