Self settling

Best thing I ever did was stop trying to teach self settling. It’s an older term within the ‘sleep training’ community and not something that is biologically normal. Some children can self settle, others cannot and it’s mainly temperamental. At around 8 months I could successfully transfer my son after feeding to sleep into a cot or mattress to nap though without teaching anything. He is dependent on me to fall asleep and will be for a while.

Around 2.5months I started putting my son into his crib when he shows signs of being tired, put on his white noise and red light and he settles down and falls asleep!

I've never taught it. You can't really reach it, it's largely temperamental. Some babies will naturally fall asleep with very little intervention and support, others won't. If your baby is one of the ones that needs a lot of help to fall asleep, they likely will for a good while longer.

At around 5.5 months I tried self settling because my LO is almost 20lbs so rocking her to sleep gets difficult after 5 or so minutes. I also tried it because she doesn't let my husband put her to bed so I thought learning to settle herself might make it easier for him to put her down. We were making good progress in the first week but then she had her first 2 teeth come in so needed the cuddles. I've been rocking/cuddling her to sleep since because I came to the realisation that I am basically to her what a teddy bear is to a small child and I am more than ok with that 😂 plus when I rock her to sleep, she is typically down and asleep within 10 minutes!

Baby’s can’t regulate themselves they need to be regulated 💕

See my baby knew how to do it from birth it was all nice and easy and then the 7 month regression hit and the separation anxiety hit and we are in a cosleeping hell and she suddenly has no clue how to self sooth and no sleep training ethos works on her so there

Literally follow their lead is what I did with my LO who is now 6 months, for ages I felt like I was trying every trick in the book to get her to self settle then one night it happened when we weren’t even trying!! Although she can out herself to sleep at the start of the night we still struggling with settling it if she wakes up during the night … oh and we contact nap so I don’t think I’ve got much figured out 🙈😂

My 4 year old has never self settled and still doesnt. My 15 month old done it automatically from a baby. She loves a Comforter or blanket ti go to sleep with my 4 year never took to one. I think it either happens or it doesn't.

My 27 month can't self regulate