Self settling

At what age has everyone been teaching self settling, my LO is 3 months going on 4, love to hear everyone’s thoughts and what methods you have used

Thanks!

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I just haven’t honestly… I know that’s not helpful sorry!!!
But I just know it wouldn’t work for my baby… she can’t figure out how to calm herself down no matter what, and sometimes it’s even a struggle to get her to settle myself so I will just continue to cuddle/rock to sleep.
Eventually she’ll learn to do it herself 🤷‍♀️

But that’s what works best for my little one, hope someone can help you though!!!

Best thing I ever did was stop trying to teach self settling. It’s an older term within the ‘sleep training’ community and not something that is biologically normal. Some children can self settle, others cannot and it’s mainly temperamental. At around 8 months I could successfully transfer my son after feeding to sleep into a cot or mattress to nap though without teaching anything. He is dependent on me to fall asleep and will be for a while.

Around 2.5months I started putting my son into his crib when he shows signs of being tired, put on his white noise and red light and he settles down and falls asleep!

I've never taught it. You can't really reach it, it's largely temperamental. Some babies will naturally fall asleep with very little intervention and support, others won't. If your baby is one of the ones that needs a lot of help to fall asleep, they likely will for a good while longer.

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thoughts…

it’s my birthday in a few weeks and i’ve just found out my partner has bought me some lingerie… a few years ago this would have been fine, except i’ve just had 3 babies in 16 months (singleton and twins) and im currently 8 weeks postpartum… i currently hate how my body looks and know i won’t want to wear anything like it.
i’ve also recently discovered he is watching porn and pleasuring himself nearly every day… this isn’t something i would normally mind, but i think the frequency he is doing it makes me feel “icky”. it feels like he’s bought me the underwear to make me more appealing to him, without thinking about whether it would be something i’d want.

am i just being overly sensitive..?

Don't know what to do

Hey im a first time mom to my baby girl. she is 20 days old and last night was up most the night. I've had 2 hours sleep total im so tired but she won't sleep at all. She will wake up and have some of a bottle and then when I put her down after burping her she will start crying half an hour later for more. She's on 6 ounces of hungry baby formula. Im just not sure why this is happening. Could it be sleep regression?

Sleeping bags

My newborn hates a swaddle of the love to dream swaddle. So was thinking of a sleeping bag.

What tog do you have your baby in that is always a warm baby, rarely cold?
My girl runs hot all the time and normally has a thin blanket on but she is constantly moving so it gets kicked off

Breastfeeding past 12 months

Guys im getting irritated. Ive been ebf now 8 months and my mum keeps saying in diff ways that “oh ur mummys gonna wean you off the breast soon” when shes 12 months.

And today shes telling me you cant breastfeed past 12 months.

And when i said i am going to and want to reach at least 2 years. Shes not saying “oh so u wanna breastfeed till 5”

Like what?

And then she’s saying because i still have baby weight i should go on manjaro. But obvs cant do that while breastfeeding.

So cant you still loose weight while breastfeeding past 12 months through diet and exercise?

Is anyone else’s family saying this about breastfeeding past 12 months? My mums just making me feel like im doing something wrong.

Is it not normal? I feel just annoyed because this is my baby and if im good with still breastfeeding her and if she still wants to breastfeed why should i stop.

How does breastfeeding past 12 months look like ?

Thank you! My rants over💗💗

Dummy removal cold turkey at 8m

My LO (8 months) wakes constantly, hourly sometimes because she needs the dummy. I wouldn’t even mind if I had to just reinsert it. But if it falls out she wakes and will escalate until I hold her. Depends on it strongly to fall asleep. Even holding her I need to give her the dummy. Takes ages to get her back in cot. This is all night. I’m so sleep deprived and can’t function. I’m considering removing cold turkey. Any advice ??? Is this the right thing to do

Wake window ideas

Hi All my LO is 9.5 weeks, sleeps really well at night (a 5-7 hour stretch, followed by a 3-4 hour) but that means she is awake lots in the day, she’ll have 30-40 minute naps and is wide awake 1.5-2 hours at a time, before I can even think about trying to get her back to sleep.
I’m just looking for age appropriate wake window ideas, she hates lying under her baby gym, she’ll do probably max 10 mins a day, we do tummy time, but again she’s not a fan. She loves just sitting and chatting with me face to face and reading books, we probably read 6 a day.
I’m open to all ideas please