thoughts…
it’s my birthday in a few weeks and i’ve just found out my partner has bought me some lingerie… a few years ago this would have been fine, except i’ve just had 3 babies in 16 months (singleton and twins) and im currently 8 weeks postpartum… i currently hate how my body looks and know i won’t want to wear anything like it.
i’ve also recently discovered he is watching porn and pleasuring himself nearly every day… this isn’t something i would normally mind, but i think the frequency he is doing it makes me feel “icky”. it feels like he’s bought me the underwear to make me more appealing to him, without thinking about whether it would be something i’d want.
am i just being overly sensitive..?
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Why you are feeling like that is totally understandable! I would try to communicate all of this to him, see what he says/how he reacts.
It's not oversensitive. 8 weeks postpartum is a hard time. Maybe he's doing it to relieve stress? It could be he bought the lingerie as he thought it would be a nice gift, and he does still finds you sexy and loves your body. If you dont want to wear it, dont feel forced to because it's a gift. Maybe a conversation with him about how you feel would help? My husband constantly annoys me postpartum without meaning to
My husband did the same but he didn’t to make me feel better about my self my husband is super attracted to me more so after I gave birth to twins so don’t look at it as he’s not attracted to you anymore maybe he’s just so attracted to you he has to relieve himself but he doesn’t want to make you feel like he’s asking all the time or make you feel like he’s making you do or it just may simply be he’s scared of having more kids just talk to him
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