Partner returning to work after paternity leave

Did anyone else feel anxious/nervous about their partner going back to work after paternity leave? I’m so worried about being responsible for my baby when my partner has been so supportive, especially when I’d had a difficult birth and hard recovery. I just don’t want to fail and I’m very teary whenever I think about it.

Am I over-reacting? Was this normal for anyone else? I’m feeling very overwhelmed and just looking for others experiences or advice on how I can feel less anxious about this.

Sorry for the long winded post but I just don’t have many mum friends to talk to and want to know if this is the baby blues or a fear other people have too! 😬

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I'm not sure why this has popped up on my feed, but hi!

First of all, congratulations mama. Postpartum is hard work, so you're doing wonderfully.

Your partner going back to work is hard. It's a huge shift and a big change. It's anxiety provoking but the anxieties you feel are normal!

It may seem a lifetime away now, but honestly, your partner going back to work will give you more of a routine. You'll find your routine and your own way of doing things which in turn makes the day to day much easier. Soon, you'll find him/her an inconvenience when they're home as you will have your set ways.

How about getting someone round for a couple of hours late morning? Give you chance to get yourselves sorted in the morning, whilst also having the reassurance that someone will be visiting if you're struggling.

It gets easier with every day. The more you do it, the easier it will all become second nature. You've got this x

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My partner never actually had any time off (he owns his own company) so I was thrown in the deep end straight away and honestly you just make it work. Once you get the hang of your own little routine it all becomes second nature. We go on daily walks with our dog or walk to the shop and before I realise he’s back from work again, the days go back to quick

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I feel the same way. My partner is going back tomorrow as it’s first night shift in about a month so I’m dreading to do the night feeds all on my own and I get teary myself. I think it’s normal to feel like this and you’re doing great!
I know from tomorrow just going with the flow and make my own routine so that works for me and our son. Don’t put yourself down or be negative about yourself!
I’m always here if you ever need to chat/ rant! 😊

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I had my first week after he went back to work. It was ok but by the end of the week I was exhausted. Today he has taken care of the baby all day and I was able to relax a bit; but the I felt guilty and went and picked up my baby lol.

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I was so worried and kept thinking how the hell am I gonna do this?! But you will! You find your grove and routine and some days are fine and other days if he’s being particularly aggy I get stressed but you just do because you don’t have a choice! You’ll be fine, I’d advise getting out and meeting people and doing classes!

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I was the exact same had a horrendous birth after a perfect pregnancy! The recovery was so unbelievably hard because of emergency C-section and I have damaged nerves in my back so I was heavily relying on my partner! he did all the night feeds looked after me took me to the toilet showered me, I was so nervous for him to go back to work but when he went back I just had to get on with it. It’s difficult but you’ll find your feet and your own routine! If you have family that could be around that would really help too! You’ve got this🤍

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I was exactly the same when my husband went back to work a few weeks ago. I was so anxious about looking after this little person on my own as well as worrying about feeling lonely during the day. He even asked work if he could use annual leave days once a week and work from home once a week for the first couple of weeks back. Well, I can tell you that none of those annual leave days or work from home days had to be used. It didn’t take long for me to feel totally content will be little boy. We have our days to ourselves to just chill and I absolutely love it. Don’t worry, it won’t take you long to find your feet!

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I felt exactly the same . I promise you it will be fine . You got this !! Think of how far you have come already you created and carried your baby for 9 months , your an amazing mummy already . You will find your own little routine just the 2 of you each day . My only advice would be try getting out each day even if just for a little walk it really helped me and my sanity and fresh air is always good for you both . Always here if you need to chat 💕

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Perfectly valid but my advice is keep busy :) you will soon get into a routine with your baby and I found that when my husband then was home it totally threw me out of sync!!😂

Do something each day - a class, a coffee (M&S do free cake for mat leave mums on Tuesdays!), an errand etc.

The better weather is coming enjoy it! Take a picnic and find a shady spot.

Be kind to your self and all will fall into place :)

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I felt exactly the same, my partner works nights so the thought of being in a flat on my own with two kids was just terrifying, the night he went back i just broke down in tears, baby boy is now 7 weeks old things are slowly getting easier

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