Newborn baby cries only when I’m holding him

Lately I’m struggling to settle my baby, he is 5 weeks old. He cries with me when I hold him and is quite unsettled but when I give him to another family member he will generally stop. Trying not to think about it too much but it’s really getting me down. Any ideas why this may be or anyone experienced something similar?

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They can sense when you feel nervous so I’d say try to be calm when holding him! You’re doing amazing ❤️ sending you hugs

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I experienced this too and what i learned from it is that your baby is comfortable around you. Babies dont know the other person so they can’t trust someone else holding them so they’re more quiet yet alert because they dont know whats going to happen. Your baby can trust you which is why he’s more active with you. It used to get me down until i realize that my son feels safe around me and that its okay if he gets unsettled when hes with me. We are both learning. He also had a period where all he did was cry as a newborn even though i did everything. I did some research and found out newborns will go through a phase of just crying quite a lot for a week or 2 because they dont know how to communicate/regulate themselves yet so they just cry just because. That calmed me down a lot too. I google everything since im a first time mom and its helped me and i feel more connected to my son rather than feeling lost and incompetent and comparing myself to others.

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My baby used to do this too but then the doctor said it's because they expect to nurse whenever you hold them and cry when it doesn't happen. I switched positions, started holding her differently than when she would nurse and started humming, talking and rocking when she would cry and eventually it got better and she calms down in my arms now too.

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