Does anyone else want nothing to do with their husband while pregnant?

I dont know why but I don’t want him to kiss me or hug me or cuddle me and I definitely don’t want to be intimate. I feel really bad because physical touch is his love language and I can tell it bothers him but I can’t force myself to be sweet. I have literally no libido, I usally don’t get in the mood often anyway but we’ve only done it twice since I’ve been pregnant and I seriously have to force myself into it. I also have bipolar disorder and I’m off my meds for the baby’s sake so I feel like that might have something to do with it, I mostly struggle with being extremely angry and I tend to unconsciously let it out around him and so on top of not being physically affectionate I’m usually in a bad mood and I’m not verbally affectionate. I don’t really know what to do atp, just hoping to hear it’s a normal part of pregnancy.

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I was waiting for a post like this because after I got pregnant my baby father left me .. I guess we both fell out and everything was so different . At first I was the same . I didn’t want him to touch me either or be affectionate

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So, i think it is normal to a degree... Like I'm 12 weeks in and let me tell you... I freaking hate my husband right now. 🥴 He just cant do anything right and he's just in the way. And don't get me started on him trying to be intimate. Like I feel bad also but I don't want him touching me or even touching my stomach to "feel the baby".. Like I'm 12 weeks your not gonna feel anything! And I told him he's gonna ask before he touches me bc its my body my choice whether I want you to touch me or not. And he got a little defensive saying "well it's my baby in there" and I told him, still my body. Not yours and your gonna respect that. I didnt have this problem with 1st baby bc he was on deployment the whole pregnancy so I'm def struggling this time around with him being here constantly. 🫠

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Girl, I feel you so much on this,like seriously, you just described exactly how I felt during my first pregnancy. I didn’t want to be touched, kissed, cuddled,nothing. I had zero libido, and even when we did get intimate (which only happened once in the whole 9 months), I had to force myself through it.
I couldn’t stand anyone touching my belly either, not even my husband, and he was so sweet about it. He didn’t push, he just respected my space. But I think what helped was that I was upfront with him. I told him how I was feeling,even though it was hard and he got that it wasn’t about him, it was just everything going on inside me

Just try to be honest with him if you haven’t already,it doesn’t mean everything will magically feel better, but it might help him understand you’re not rejecting him, you’re just going through a lot. And when it passes (because it will), you guys will find your rhythm again. You’re not broken, you’re just in a really intense season

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I’m the exact same. although my libido has always been not very high (i would only be in the mood when i was ovulating). and i’m not big on kissing (probably a sensory thing) but i try every once in a while because i feel bad for him bc physical touch is his love language too…

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All these comments 😂😂😂 I’m glad we are not alone in this lmao

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THANK GOD 🤪

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I wish mine would go away for awhile. I am so tired of him being a grumpy child about me not being affectionate! Sorry I don’t wanna be intimate when I have all the bloating, constipation, trapped gas pains, sore boobs, and back ache. Sex isn’t really on my mind right now especially after a fun transvaginal ultrasound. I just wanna dump him at a men’s daycare for a few days of peace.

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I’m glad it’s not just me and i try but i get really annoyed especially when he doesn’t hear when i tell him im not okay this pregnancy much different from my first one and it’s exhausting rn i hope it’s just a first trimester thing

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what i didn’t expect was normally i like my husband’s pheromones but suddenly i cannot stand them. which leads to me not wanting his kisses or cuddles. it’s making me so sad. like biologically this might make sense? idk. my libido has dropped but i still feel the urge sometimes and try to fit as much intimacy in as possible when it happens. but i do feel bad that i’m not as affectionate, definitely meaner and needier, and barely want him to touch me. ugh.

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My mother has told me for her, this is what girls are like and my two friends when pregnant with their girls felt like this too and I am now pregnant with my second, girl. My boy was easy but I also feel it’s different from the first time because I didn’t have a 2yr old toddler then lol. Is everyone who feels like this also pregnant with girls lol?

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Nope lol I’m having a boy

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