Getting to sleep by self

Don’t take the sides off the cot 👍
It is possible but it will feel hard initially. You have to chose a ‘training’ method you are comfortable with and be consistent with. Baby can’t get drowsy on anything before bedtime or nap time and she will go into her cot awake after a routine. Age appropriate wake windows, might be moving to 1 nap soon if not already.
It’s hard but it’s possible 🙌🏻 Too much soothing and interaction at this age can be much harder so just be careful.

Consistency and routine is so so important, and not giving up. Dark cool room. Expose her to her room for a few days before hand - play in there for example.
A training method can involve you staying close by in the room as she falls asleep (but not holding her) or you can give her space and step outside of the room for an amount of time and pop back in. She will have big feelings about any method but she will need you to hold your boundary and be consistent with it. It’s a big change but it’s possible.

Thankyou , what makes it hard is the constant getting up and screaming it feels awful esp when the only way they soothe is when I pick her back up again but I’m planning on staying next to her and just sticking with it she will have to fall asleep at some point and she knows I’m still there just knowing it’s possible hopefully gives me the determination to stick to it like you said boundaries and consistency

My daughter was Co sleeping for a while and being fed to sleep, she now goes to sleep independently in her own room in her cot, it was a gradual process but I first started by taking one side of her cot off and strapping the cot to my bed, almost like an extension, then I’d feed her and put her in her bed and lie on my bed next to her until she fell asleep, that was probably a few weeks, then we’d put her in her cot awake (still next to our bed) and leave the room, then when she was comfortable going to sleep independently we moved her into her own room with the cot side on, it will take some time and there will be hard nights but you have to persevere with it if you want to get her in her own room, we had no crying it out or leaving her when she was unsettled, but just offering lots of reassurance to her and she’s now confident and sleeping much better - good luck!!

I had difficulties getting my LB in his cot after sleeping with me. I basically introduced it gradually, I used to take him up at night and we would sit in his room read stories and he would have his milk in there, before going in my bed. I also got him to have his naps in his cot during the day before putting him in it at night. To be fair it worked really well for us, and we haven't looked back. X

I can totally relate to the screaming my LB used to scream, that's one of the reasons I put him in his cot for naps to start with, as I had more energy to deal with the screaming. X