Toddler sleeps holding breast at night?

Does anyone elses 22month old slip their hands inside your top, holding your breast/nipples as comfort and sleep at night? I stopped BFing last Nov and he developed this new habbit a month after stopping Breastfeeding. I don't mind him doing it though cos I miss the Breastfeeding bond I had with him. I'm okay with it until he starts waking up at nights wanting to slip his hand in my top. Anyone else experiencing this? Is it normal at this stage?

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Hi, we have the same situation, not only at night but sometimes during the day if is on my arms or relaxing on the sofa. Not sure if is normal at this stage.
I am thinking to start sticking some plasters on my nipples, hope it will help to stop it.

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Same with my baby girl. I breastfed her until last January, so I guess she remembers those days and it's a comfort thing. I don't really see the problem as it's only when she's trying to sleep. I'm sure it'll stop at some point! Seems pretty normal to me but I'm no expert.
I think the most important thing is how you feel about this. Are you comfortable with it? Do you want to put your foot down?

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i absolutely love it. I wanted to check if other kids his age do this. I feel pressured that I'm supposed to stop him doing that and if i allow him to continue it will grow to become worse and then I'll be blamed. At the moment i honestly don't see the problem and I hate if i get the' i told you so'.

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My son does this but he IS still breastfed and I put my foot down because he twiddles the nipples and I hate that feeling! In the day time he will randomly pull on my nipple just because he can🤦🏽‍♀️ sometimes when I am feeding him, he will unlatch just to poke or hold onto my nipple and oftentimes he will hold onto my boob for security so I don’t take the boob away (even though he don’t want anymore milk), but he would cry the moment I pull my top down as he realised he does in fact want milk now😒🥴

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Don't let people pressure you into anything! You do what feels right for you and your child. Children need comfort. My little one doesn't have a favourite cuddly toy or comforter, so I sometimes feel like I'm the comforter when she holds onto my nipple at night. And you know what? That's perfectly fine!

As for the pressure you feel, I completely understand. People around us are always going to judge and pressure us into stuff. You have to remember you're doing your best and what you think is right for you and your kid.
I remember feeling pressured and judged when I was still breastfeeding at 18 months. Turns out me and baby needed to find the right time for us to stop, emotionally and physically. It was a big step. And it was no one else's business. We eventually did stop and I don't regret anything now. The judgments and pressure I felt back then feel so far away now.

I wish you all the best ☺️

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thank you, this is so nice to read. My sons comfort has always been me. Not anything else and i want to hold on to him and the closeness until i think it's becoming a bad thing for him.

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my son used to do this when he was breastfeeding, pinching or twisting my nipples. Now he just warms his hands inside my top and cups my boobs, not so much of pinching. He holds it to sleep as a comfort thing. I still miss my breastfeeding days but i had to stop for a good reason but if i Could, i would still be feeding him.

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Oh I would much rather that than what he currently does🥴, I feel like I don’t even own them anymore, I can’t itch my boob in front of him otherwise he thinks I’m about to offer it to him🤦🏽‍♀️

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have you had any luck with this? I think now this is starting to affect my sons sleep where if I'm not there he tends to wakeup quicker and not go back to sleep easy

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